Yes, ALL of this- ESPECIALLY those in religious and/or "positive only" "personal growth" communities.
Agree with Dharmagirl that it's not in the past for those of us who have PTSD. But it's not just "PTSD brain" imo. It's the whole nervous system.
For me, my body (specifically my anxiety is a knot in my gut, shoulders and throat- learned that because of EMDR therapy) knows way before my brain does.
I feel in my various body part(s) (most often the knot in the gut) long before I have a memory of a traumatic event.
I have one bff who doesn't get it because most of the time she's avoiding her own PTSD. Another who thinks he knows better than I do what's best for me (he's in the above camps + a *tiny* bit of knowledge about the brain) who's also avoiding his ptsd.
And other family/friends. We either just gradually talk less and less, and/or we gradually just don't talk at all. Or we talk and avoid the topic. (That just feels so inauthentic to me now though. I hate it).
I don't currently have the strength to say "no one knows better than me what it's like living in my skin and since you're unwilling or unable to accept this Truth, it's not good for me to have you in my life. I hope that changes but for now, it has to be goodbye."
Because I can't say all of that and deal with the fallout, my best is to simply let them or the topic just fall away. That's the best I can do right now and it just has to be good enough. It HAS to be... because it is my BEST. And idgaf anymore if they understand or believe that.
My therapist and I understand and know how best to address it. As do my friends who have/had their own PTSD.
I say ALL of this to say "welcome, you're not alone, here's a piece of my experience that may/may not bng useful for you. Stay true toer you. Always."
