I know it's a dumb question nobody can answer with any degree of certainty, but nonetheless, I am trying to be emotionally prepared for my siblings to perhaps begin to suffer from flashbacks of the abuse now the abusive father just died.
I have read that some remember when strong enough, some when the abuser dies, during grief, and others in end of life process crisis, while others will never remember at all.
So there is no answer only questions.
I simply don't know how I should or could respond if and when they are re-traumatized by this. I know that for me and most people, there is a longing for confirmation and validation to not feel you're just crazy, or fence sitting, not wanting to believe what was remembered as real during shock.
I guess it's hard for me to recall all that I went through 6 years ago in 2011 when I got hit with a 5-year flashback fest and it all came back to me. It was very hard. Especially with the way it turned out with me being pushed away.
I have read that some remember when strong enough, some when the abuser dies, during grief, and others in end of life process crisis, while others will never remember at all.
So there is no answer only questions.
I simply don't know how I should or could respond if and when they are re-traumatized by this. I know that for me and most people, there is a longing for confirmation and validation to not feel you're just crazy, or fence sitting, not wanting to believe what was remembered as real during shock.
I guess it's hard for me to recall all that I went through 6 years ago in 2011 when I got hit with a 5-year flashback fest and it all came back to me. It was very hard. Especially with the way it turned out with me being pushed away.