Age Gap For Romantic Relationship?

[Ejuf]

My hubby is 17 years older than me. I didn't choose him because he's so much older. I chose him because of his qualities and values. His age just happened to be part of the package. I accept that he is likely to go before me, but I cherish every moment I have with him. He's about the best man I've ever known.

There is not a huge cultural gap with us, as he was born at the beginning of the baby boomer age and I was born at the end of it. There's not much that we can't relate to in each other. Though I think if we were both 20 years younger, that might have made a difference. Luckily, we're not. And this is a marriage made in heaven. We both feel so lucky to have found each other. We into our 14th year of marriage, though we've been together for 18 years -- the longest each of us has ever been with anyone.

 

[Igas]

I would 8 years older and 1 year younger. I feel I am emotionally older than I am and I would want someone who could share that with me but I feel like when you go too far on one or the other direction your relationship will grow apart as you both age.

 

[Dofav]

My Husband is 18 years older than me. We have been married for 30 years. He is now a pensioner and I am not. But it is all irrelevant. He is my soulmate, and I love him to bits. Yes I do fear him dying. But I know only too well that you don't need to be old to die.

I don't think the age gap matters, it is the personalities that are far more important.

 

[Ubi]

Yep, agreed, Dofav. It is the personalities that matter at this stage.

Igas, my hubby and I have only gotten closer as we've gotten older. But I don't know how old you are. I am 52 and he's 68.

 

[Ipu]

Age is just a number, it's not that important in a relationship. If you love someone and are happy with them, then you've got a soulmate for life, no matter how long or short that may be.

I lost my soulmate last year, but I have the memories of what we had together, and even though she didn't know me towards the end, I knew that inside she was the same person that I fell in love with, all them years ago.