Anger At Fake Ptsders

[Digod]

Attention seekers are very toxic, and will drain you and they contribute no real substance to any relationship.

Agreed... Recently I had to move on from attention seeker. It was disgusting. We took a topic, if I say something about myself they would bring in themselves immediately. There is not a sentence they did not bring in themselves.

They are still doing it, sucking the life out of reader. Some people become too self centered when they keep exaggerating their problems or fake something which is not there.

 

[Epop]

My husband found out about the acronym ptsd and asked what it meant. I told him that "it's pis traumatic stress disorder and that its related to my childhood sexual abuse (which he knows existed, but not much more than that)". Later that night he very sincerely told me that he was going to get ptsd from his job (a standardly stressful corporate management job). Still don't know how to respond to that!

 

[Adi]

Just like it takes time and trust to open up in therapy it does here too. I'm pretty sure that this most people tslk about symptoms here which could be minor or large but all part of a bigger trauma. It actually makes me irritated that some is taking room on this supportive network to discount someone else's trauma. How is that helpful. You can hit ignore if someone annoys you here.

 

[Vikiro]

I wonder what a therapist feels when they feel this, that their patient is faking a Dx and really hasn't a clue how transparent it is.

Not being a therapist, I don't know the answer to that. But, it seems to me if a person feels the need to pretend they have something they don't have, they actually DO have some sort of problem. Just not the one they're presenting with.

 

[Uwa]

I am no more qualified to argue with another person's diagnosis (from whatever source) than I am to make the diagnosis in the first place. I solidly believe that happy, healthy people DO NOT fake illnesses. As a member of a PEER support group, mine is not to judge them, but to support them in their recovery, wherever that recovery may lead them. They may call their current place in their recovery whatever makes sense to them at any given moment. When I feel the urge to invalidate them, I work on my own trust issues.

 

[Ewamo]

What do you think about people whose identity becomes PTSD, and their symptoms never improve because if they did they would lose their identity, so instead, they come here to uphold their identity and continue to be sick???? I'm starting to spot them, and avoid engaging with them. I prefer the support of those who know who they really are...

 

[Oguga]

What do you think about people whose identity becomes PTSD, and their symptoms never improve because if they did they would lose their identity,

That it's sad, and I hope that it's just a phase they're going through, and that they can find a way to move beyond it, to be who ever it is they are really supposed to be. But, if I'm looking for advice and/or support, that would tend not to be a place I'd look for it.

 

[Eviw]

Sometimes people also have other issues, in addition to the PTSD and so treatment may be more challenging. There are people who refuse to take medication, for example. I would not take that as an unwillingness to get better though. As I'm sure most are aware, many of the meds can have serious side effects. Some people are perfectly fine with that, some aren't. Some may have easy access to therapy, some may not. Yes the equivalent of "I broke my nail yesterday, I think I have PTSD" is highly suspect and even annoying but even that sometimes hides bigger issues (which may well be real PTSD in all its glory) etc. As fro the identity bit - I think people who have serious childhood trauma are probably more likely to have this as an identity. That doesn't mean they are just attention seekers, or that they don't want to get better. It means they need compassion and help getting through it as much as possible.

 

[Butav]

There are people who refuse to take medication, for example. I would not take that as an unwillingness to get better though. As I'm sure most are aware, many of the meds can have serious side effects.

There are also lots of people for whom medication does not help.

 

[Naju]

There I said it. I wish I could go "poof, be gone" and they'd disappear off the forum.

So...what is YOUR anger really about? How many times were you NOT believed? Is there a special Jeti Knight mind f*ck that is suppose to be exhibited by each and every person for them to meet with Your approval?

I remember when even Prisoners of War were dealt with that way by the candy arsh public...didn't meet with their approval of some unseen trauma.

Get over yourself, put a bag on it...:bag:

 

[Ebuta]

So...what is YOUR anger really about? How many times were you NOT believed?

I am not the person whom this was directed to, but my anger at people who reference ptsd or similar over proverbial "stubbed toe" issues is that it completely minimizes my trauma just like everyone around me did when I was a child. So, it hits a raw nerve.

 

[Ogat]

I have a relative who is supposedly faking cancer, but I live too far away to know the truth. My only information is facebook. She spends a lot of time saying that she did Chemo or radiation, then went on a long road trip out of state right from the hospital. She has never lost any hair or been sick or lost a single pound. Is that possible? I don't think so, but I don't know for sure.

This person has a lifelong pattern of lying about everything. So it is either true that she's still lying to gain attention or she's finally telling the truth but nobody believes her (because she cried wolf).

Either way, it's disturbing to watch it unfold, even as a neutral party who is undecided. She seems to have truly upset those who lost a loved one to cancer in the family. They feel quite a lot of rage. They also hate it that she has convinced some people that she is fighting cancer, who fly to see her or send her well wishes all of the time.

So I feel that there is no way to get out of being upset, angry, or perturbed when people lie to and/or discount others. It's hard to watch all the effects this has on people in my family. It's hard to see those who feel anger with everyone, so hurt by the lies and hard to think someone is lying to exploit a terrible disease for attention.

I think for PTSD, it's no different for me with PTSD. I don't like seeing deception. It's also very triggering to be invalidated by those who don't want to believe the awful truths of life.