Anger At Fake Ptsders

[Meworip]

I assume a therapist would work with a person regardless, and help them through whatever the presenting issues are.

I guess I'm blind to fakers on here, or I don't waste precious time and energy trying to decide who has PTSD and who doesn't. Usually when someone doesn't have a trauma history of any kind it doesn't take long for people to call them out on it and ask them to get a second opinion from a health professional.

Sometimes people do have real issues but they either save them for their diary or they might not feel comfortable putting it out there on the internet but they still feel like they need to communicate with others who are suffering and can relate

I agree. Just as the OP is posting in the anonymous section. This makes it easier to say things you wouldn't say under your username. I have done that myself and posted about childhood issues.

OP, I say hit Ignore if you think someone posting is faking, that way you're not wasting your time reading something from someone you have decided is a faker.

 

[Asawo]

Its easy to put these people on ignore, but some dominate chat with petty problems that are in no way, shape, or form PTSD related but are normal things that are VERY minor and in the process they sideline those who have bigger problems. Its this self-centered-ness that irritates the f*ck out of me. Yes, I have this person on ignore. She doesn't even realize that there are others who leave chat when she enters because its just exhausting to be there and try to support someone who has the equivalent of a stubbed toe when everyone else has a broken ankle....Yes, I've talked to others so I know for a fact I'm not the only one irritated who walks out of the room! Talk about having your blinders on and being self-centered. (I have major issues with me-me-me-me-me-me-AND-me people. Can you tell?)

 

[Uroma]

So you have an issue with one person, and other people here have an issue with her too? Have you tried talking to her in a mature way about it?

Maybe the minor things are what causes her stress cup to overflow. Just playing devil's advocate there. You could be right about the person, but if selfishness or the person in general pisses you off so much, why waste your energy thinking about it, and discussing her with others?

I think maybe I'm bored of anonymous threads about if there are people on here faking PTSD. I think if someone is then they do have psychological issues and need support. I'm also not a fan of thinking people gossip about other members here without them knowing, but then I guess that is part of life. In group vs Out group mentality.

It'd be better if people just told each other what pissed them off in a mature way to increase self awareness, but then I see why that could backfire and just become an argument instead of a mature discussion.

 

[Ogat]

Some good points about chat and ignore doesn't work there?

Sometimes the desire for dialogue is wasted more than venting the displeasure of someone's forced company on the forum (even in chat). Dialogue has to work two ways, and if someone clearly is not up to hold up their end, then venting, like above, is actually healthy.

Now, gossip, maybe not so much. That could be a bit like Mean Girls, but again, it depends, and it could actually be more group "self defense" from a bully.

 

[Ini]

Poster above me "Ogat" has a very good point. There is no point in talking to them if they are not interested to learn and grow.

Re venting, yes is actually healthy, I dislike when they just come and throw it on here. It is like they threw on our face without acknowledging we might be in some kind of trouble. That's very selfish and me me me.

 

[Jode]

I was under the impression that chat is for both serious and less serious topics. Personally, I would prefer if someone had an issue with me to say it openly to me (via PM or whatever) so I could assess my behaviour and change it if it needs changing. Sometimes people are probably not aware they are doing something like that. And as for the me, me, me, me issue...welcome to mental illness.

 

[Kogenov]

If someone is malingering in chat, report.

 

[Gehon]

To think the person you posted this about doesn't know you posted it is ignorant. If you have problems with them I think you should directly talk to them too.

 

[Uvaku]

I don't know of anyone who dominates chat with petty problems.

 

[Ogat]

Regardless of the problems mentioned, which come from interactions, this is still an excellent forum. Utilizing it well makes it an even better resource.

 

[Gowem]

Oh wow! I have to say I'm possibly the most naive person, but I didn't realise people honestly pretend to have PTSD, or even that there are people that think they can get it from a relationship breakup. Seriously, that's hard to believe. I think the first is worse. The latter is simple uneducated, I guess, however if said to me in a low time, would piss me off terribly! But to pretend you have PTSD for attention or whatever... terrible. But does make me feel better in some ways... at least there's someone more crazy than me out there!! :P

 

[Abebuw]

I haven't noticed people pretending or exaggerating. .. though i seldom do chat. people can be in very different places and have had very different traumas.

Re. PTSD as an identity. .. If you find yourself later in life, looking back on decades of issues that you never realized were due to dissociation or some such thing, it can be a profound thing. Some of us have had PTSD as a huge determinant of our lives and parts of our identity, whether we like it or not. The tools and help for some conditions are only recently adequate it seems too. Most people with PTSD on the planet still lack any sort of adequate care too.