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That is PTSD. I didn't catch the part where he was extremely abusive minus the part where he had a nightmare and attacked you in bed?
This all sounds like me in 2010-2012. Grabbing my girl friend at the times leg at night an yelling, "Where's the medic!?" Raging alcoholic. Couldn't sleep. Extremely negative and felt numb, dead inside and damned to hell for eternity.
Right now guys like this are in the belly of the beast. Looking back to me it seems like the worst part of the journey. They have no coping skills and they're just pushing forward trying to forget. The problem is we're hard wired in the military to toughen the f*ck up and change socks, drink some water and push on. He needs help, but you can't make him get that help.
Because the help means being on pills, the pills which give you erectile dysfunction or other side effects that are less than desirable.
It pains me to think about giving you advice to leave a fellow brother in arms by himself during this time but for you it might be best.
For him if he can stick it through it will be good as well for him to work through things but ultimately there's a high chance of suicide or prison from the alcohol.
I'd like to lay out a plan or path for them to follow but shit I don't know how I made it out of that funk, except for luck an reading posts on here regarding the topic. An slowly not trying to block out the memories that were trying to be processed I suppose I have no idea really but its hell.
Can't forget Gods forgiveness. But talking God to someone in that phase would plant a seed for years later at best. Tell him God forgives and loves him.
This all sounds like me in 2010-2012. Grabbing my girl friend at the times leg at night an yelling, "Where's the medic!?" Raging alcoholic. Couldn't sleep. Extremely negative and felt numb, dead inside and damned to hell for eternity.
Right now guys like this are in the belly of the beast. Looking back to me it seems like the worst part of the journey. They have no coping skills and they're just pushing forward trying to forget. The problem is we're hard wired in the military to toughen the f*ck up and change socks, drink some water and push on. He needs help, but you can't make him get that help.
Because the help means being on pills, the pills which give you erectile dysfunction or other side effects that are less than desirable.
It pains me to think about giving you advice to leave a fellow brother in arms by himself during this time but for you it might be best.
For him if he can stick it through it will be good as well for him to work through things but ultimately there's a high chance of suicide or prison from the alcohol.
I'd like to lay out a plan or path for them to follow but shit I don't know how I made it out of that funk, except for luck an reading posts on here regarding the topic. An slowly not trying to block out the memories that were trying to be processed I suppose I have no idea really but its hell.
Can't forget Gods forgiveness. But talking God to someone in that phase would plant a seed for years later at best. Tell him God forgives and loves him.