Attachment Difficulties From Early Years Trauma Or Developmental Trauma

[Deleted member 29920]

A crap psychologist really f*cked up my attachment unfortunately. I think I was beginning to trust her, then she terminated me. It hurt like hell. I'm back in therapy with someone new, and noticing just how much damage was done by the previous one. I felt so abandoned. Now I worry this one will abandon me too. What a disaster :cry:

 

[Deleted member 33880]

A crap psychologist really f*cked up my attachment unfortunately. I think I was beginning to trust her, th...

I went through this. A crap counsellor terminated with me suddenly by email. Then I got this psychologist. He is ending with me although he admits it is really bad timing for me but his partner is older than him and she wants him to retire. I hurt like hell.

 

[Deleted member 29920]

I'm so sorry it happened to you too :( I really needed this forum back then but I didn't find it until nine months later. In a way, it's helpful to know you're not the only one it's happened to. Still hurts though :confused:

 

[Deleted member 33880]

I'm so sorry it happened to you too :( I really needed this forum back then but I didn't find it until nin...

Yeh, it does indeed hurt like hell. I know that therapists can cause a lot of damage.

 

[watundah]

I often make notes and review what I want to cover before I go in. Sometimes I email. It does help.

I think I am actually fighting attachment...

 

[Deleted member 33880]

I often make notes and review what I want to cover before I go in. Sometimes I email. It does help...

I think it is a survival instinct to fight attachment when we have been let down so many times.

 

[Deleted member 29920]

The problem being that therapy always has to end eventually. That's where I hit difficulties.

 

[Deleted member 33880]

The problem being that therapy always has to end eventually. That's where I hit difficulties.

but surely if the therapist is good at attachment problems, they will get how to heal the attachment problems so that therapy can end because you are now not feeling so bad.

 

[watundah]

That's how I understand it..."when" we are healthy and no longer need them, we find it easier to accept the break. ( I'm on the lifer program even though I think of quitting at least 3-4x a year).

 

[Deleted member 33880]

That's how I understand it..."when" we are healthy and no longer need them, we find it easier to acc...

what do you mean by 'lifer' programme?

 

[watundah]

It means I'm in for life...too much work to do, no quick exit...

 

[Ronin]

That's where I hit difficulties.

Is it possible to keep focusing on what the relationship was, and looking at it deeper while moving away from it?
Or, form a positive internalization of everything productive in those attachments, that you could carry with yourself and review as necessary?