Attachment Issues

[Springer80]

I have an odd feeling of a no mans land around the place I need to get to

"Apart from phobia of traumatic memory, the ANP may also develop phobia of EP, which is a specific form of phobia of dissociative parts of the personality " (Trauma Information Pages, Articles Ellert Nijenhuis, et al (2004).htm)

Thus: I'm allergic to myself as well :roflmao:

AH HA!!! I do not feel a phobia but a defense mechanism and a very tricky one, phobia is too strong I think or at least misdirected. Oh and I don't think it's a phobia 'apart from traumatic memory' it's two sides of the same thing. Like a two way mirror.

I wrote something on my 'Met Someone New' thread that relates to this....I'm gonna go get it.

I also don't see therapists anymore...and I feel I don' want too but I feel it is a good and appropriate thing.

Oh and what you said about your ANP attaching to your EP. I never thought of it like that, to me my ANP (indeed anyones ANP is) was a false construct. I meant me accepting that I am my EP and growing another ANP from scratch, which funnily enough would not be an ANP cos it would be integrated. :rolleyes:

I can feel an epiphany coming on...they make me feel woozy though. I'm going over to find that quote and to stick it on here, then I'm giving my brain a rest.

 

[Springer80]

Quote from 'Met Someone New' thread It just occurred to me, is this something I actually need to fix? With a lot of problems I've had the way out of them is rarely the most obvious approach? And anyway, you get so used to everything being an obstacle, maybe this isn't?

I can't approach what I mean yet...sorry.

Softly, softly, catchy monkey. :cautious:

X

 

['91 Girl]

I don't like the idea that my ANP is false. I identify with my ANP, not my EP's. Can't we pretend those are the false ones? They are more sticky and difficult to deal with!

 

[Pencil]

that my ANP is false.

I don't think it is. I don't remember reading anything like that. Does it have to do with the 'false self' described in some school? As far as I know they are all very real.

 

[Pencil]

Meet The E.P's'.

I love this, Springer.

 

['91 Girl]

I was just responding because Springer said that in his post.

I never thought of it like that, to me my ANP (indeed anyones ANP is) was a false construct. I meant me accepting that I am my EP and growing another ANP from scratch, which funnily enough would not be an ANP cos it would be integrated.

 

[Springer80]

False in the sense it was grown out of forced circumstances and in isolation to your emotion.

 

['91 Girl]

False in the sense it was grown out of forced circumstances and in isolation to your emotion.

Right. Meaning this is the one that needs fixing.

 

[Pencil]

Girl, don't mind Springer!

Springer, that's a radical idea, and one I'd love to try, except my main EP is way too small to make it on her own. Perhaps that's why some people want to be adopted by their therapists. I'm not kidding, I think that is exactly what is behind it. You're a genius!!

 

[Springer80]

Can't we pretend

Well that's kinda precisely what I mean... :O_o::inlove:
I'm confusing myself now!!!

 

[Pencil]

My EP has been very active on this forum - I think it is the only outlet I have for her, or she has for herself - she comes out in all the helpless, whiny posts. I guess she is looking for surrogate mommies :rolleyes:.

 

[Springer80]

I need a lie down.... :roflmao: