Blocking Narcissist On Cell Phone

[Elevatorguy]

I seem to enjoy blocking my parents who are narcissist with my cell phone. I don't have a voicemail for house phone either , I think I perfer to not have the phone ring and see their number and go through emotions. Anyone else feel that the "don't call me - I will call you works better "?

 

[Gs172003]

I hate being on the phone period. I don't care who it is. Email me, text me, etc but don't freaking call me.

 

[ladee]

I went no contact with my family many years ago. If my parents were still alive there is no way the sperm donar would have any access to me. I absolutely understand.
Wish it had been this easy back in the day.would have saved myself a lot of heartache.

 

[Freedomfighter]

I seem to enjoy blocking my parents who are narcissist with my cell phone. I don't have a voicemail...

Good for you, the reason you enjoy that is because you know you have to do that to ensure your own mental health. Lost my mom a couple of weeks ago, now hounded by my totally inept, emotionally needy and destructive dad. Just listening to his voice for 1 second triggers me. I don't have a choice anymore, have to delete or block it or I will not survive.

 

[EveHarrington]

Yep!

I prefer to call other people. (No matter who they are.)

Businesses that won't ever pick up the phone and always call you back? They're the bane of my existence.

My phone startles me. Anxiety shoots through my body when I hear it ring. My day is then ruined. (Yet other people's phones don't bother me in the least.)

 

[Elevatorguy]

Thanks for the replies everyone , good to see we are not alone in a lot of things , my narc parents live about 30o miles away. Was great that they moved into rural upstate New York , Used to call every Tuesday , Doctor says to call every other week now ,,,, voicemail box gets messages now why I didn't call and what not ... I'm 36 and get treated like I'm 16. My older brother is no contact and I can see why now . These people Send me a box of items monthly , clothes and DVDs after I ask them not to, they just do what they want and never respected boundaries . Sorry just wanted to vent

 

[ladee]

Don't apologize for having feelings. The sperm donar was the N, makes my skin crawl even writing this and he's been dead for years.
Go no contact if you can. It has it's issues but in the end it's about us saving our self. Sending strong energy for you to do what is right for you. Gentle hugs.

 

[Silver.]

No need to apologize for wanting to vent. We all need to vent or rant sometimes. You know, I find I am more bothered by the voicemails, because that means I have to go and check the voicemail. Even worse, is people that call, you don't answer, so they text you to tell you they called. (it's not the 80's, we have caller id, I was ignoring you for a reason! lol)
The best you can do for you is to stick to your boundaries and accept that sometimes others won't respect them. But ignoring the calls is a great way of enforcing them on your behalf.
@EveHarrington I am actually the opposite, I actually am annoyed by other people's phones (and the fact they live on them)

 

[EveHarrington]

Thanks for the replies everyone , good to see we are not alone in a lot of things , my narc parent...

I say open the boxes and send the contents to a thrift store. At least they can sell the items and make a little $$$.

 

[EveHarrington]

No need to apologize for wanting to vent. We all need to vent or rant sometimes. You know, I find I am...

Lol I don't have anyone who texts to say that they called. Kind of an odd concept!

I am a heavy call screener. I only pick up if I see the call coming in and I'm in a good place/want to talk.

It is kind of annoying that people live on their phones. At home I'm on my phone a lot (Internet) but when I'm out in public or with friends/family, my phone is away. I think it's quite rude to be so connected to your phone when in the presence of others (social situations). I saw a bit of extended family last weekend and we had a good laugh about this concept of being so engrossed with your phone----we had a good laugh about the Pokemon go app. Lol.

 

[Silver.]

@EveHarrington couldn't agree with you more about people living on their phones ( oh and Pokemon?! *cringe*, nothing like inventing something to encourage people to be on their phones more than they already are! :/ )

 

[Elevatorguy]

True. Phone usage is out of control