General Broken nose during sleep

[gf of ptsd]

My ptsd boyfriend was in a fight in his sleep and punched me in the face, which broke my nose. How do we sleep safely together again?? It friggin' hurts!

 

[Sweetpea76]

Thats a tough one... does he do it all the time, or was it an isolated event?

 

[msjanetxtreme]

Uh yeah, that sucks for you. How are you? How's your nose?

Do you want to continue sleeping in the same bed or could you sleep separately for a bit?

 

[Fadeaway]

Honestly, either get a king size bed and keep body pillows between you or get seperate beds.

 

[EveHarrington]

Yep, separate beds for now, maybe forever. My nocturnal movements can go dominant for awhile and then randomly re-emerge.

 

[gf of ptsd]

Thats a tough one... does he do it all the time, or was it an isolated event?

A year ago he was doing shoving and some light kicking in his sleep....I would tell him to turn over and he was receptive at that time to turning over and I could sleep. It seems like there have been many months without incident until his punching me in the nose.

Uh yeah, that sucks for you. How are you? How's your nose?

Do you want to continue sleeping in t...

I'm very scared to sleep with him now....there was no warning with active tossing and turning before this. He had some huge work stressors in regards to ignoring his work accomodations, but we didn't know it would trigger him this much. I also think that he must have seen me in some regards, as he punched me with his left hand and I was sleeping on his right side...definitely more than just a random flail during sleep. Almost like when my kids would have night terrors and be able to communicate with me but still feel me as the nightmare, ya know?

Honestly, either get a king size bed and keep body pillows between you or get seperate beds.

He bought a king size bed, but there is no way that I feel safe with that right now. This man is so skilled in combat that just a few extra inches really doesn't feel like protection when his logic brain is shut off. The irony is our entire family feels so safe with him against any threat...but now it seems that when his sleep kicks in, I could be deemed the threat. Terrifying!

 

[Pippi427]

I got a busted lip once. My boyfriend thought he was fighting his brother in his sleep. We had to find a bigger bed.

 

[msjanetxtreme]

A year ago he was doing shoving and some light kicking in his sleep....I would tell him to turn over and he was rec...

How's the sleeping situation working out?

 

[gf of ptsd]

How's the sleeping situation working out?

We haven't slept in the same bed since my nose broke. I just don't feel at all safe, especially with the pain of it healing. He flails around so much in his sleep that even just light contact would hurt.

 

[dulcia]

Sorry to hear that! I hope you guys figure out something. I wouldn't expect you to feel safe for some time. The meds I'm on give me vivid dreams and twice I've hit my bf, once really hard in the face, because a girl in my dream was disrespecting my father. Super weird. I ended up lowering my dosage and it helped. Is he on meds?

 

[gf of ptsd]

Oh, yes, definitely on meds and regularly involved with his psychologist, as well as family physician. Just increased his prescription to help with the night terrors, so I'm feeling more optimistic. Thank you everyone, for responding!!!! xo