Can You Forgive Someone For Not Giving You Enough Space?

[Justmehere]

You are being a good friend to her by respecting her boundaries for no contact. But don't stop there. You can be a good friend to others. There are people out there who are in a place to connect and who need a good friend and who are open and waiting for it - but you are missing that by not letting her go. What about them? what about taking one step to connect with others?

 

[Deleted member 33287]

I understand that. But you have to put yourself in her shoes. She says no contact. Just like you decidin...

Our fight should of never happened. She's mad at me for not knowing how to communicate. So many people got involved who shouldn't of and made things worse.

Yes she needs and deserves space and no contact. Honestly both of those things have helped me get confused and angry which have led me to being in tune with my feelings and gradually mature.

I also do know that we can't be functional friends n not walk on egg shells unless we do serious work and talk about our issues and plan for success with a professional

 

[aut555]

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Our fight should of never happened. She's mad at me for not knowing how to communicate. So many peo...

I get what you are saying, and you are maturing by coming here and talking about how you feel. That's all good. But what l am not hearing you think about is this could be no contact for the rest of your life. I know that's a really big pill to take. Forever is pretty intense, right? But there may never be anything more with her. I understand you are crushed about this. But we can't change this. If you don't follow forever you could really end up in a worse case scenario. You have to let go, there is no other way. For you to mature, you have to walk away with your head high and realize this it. You have to love yourself enough to let go of her. You have to be strong inside and accept this. The best thing to do is to get involved in something. Like something you always wanted to do, a class, a new sport, just something to help you over this tough time. You have to accept reality and reality is it's over between you and her. We can't change any of this. This is the part you become a man and move on in your life. Ok?