Cognitive distortion list...do you see any that you do?

[ms spock]

Therefore, I am humbling offering that it is not the Upper or Lower case that is influencing informing you...but your preference settings of alerts.

I meant more that I keep going around the forum and noticing people are tagging me incorrectly and I am not getting the notifications @Recovery4Me.

I have every alert preference clicked so I receive all notifications. I don't have the time to search for things. My time is pretty limited here in some ways now.

 

[Recovery4Me]

Very scary!

:hug: I understand. I try to look at it as just being informed as communication takes at least two people. Sometimes, being aware helps me from my side of the street and to slow my inner critic. At other times, it can shield me from real life garbage someone flings my way.

 

[ms spock]

50. "I can't change my behavior." (or "I can't change my thinking style.")

Instead of telling yourself "I can't," try asking yourself how you could shift your behavior

- I am getting better at this but still struggle.
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I was stuck on this one for the longest time. Now I can challenge my distorted cognitions I am able to challenge this one which manifests in many ways in my thinking patterns.

Heya @blackemerald1 and @Nikie

 

[Recovery4Me]

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/in-practice/201301/50-common-cognitive-distortions

"41. The belief that worry and overthinking will lead to problem solving insights."

I became entrenched in rumination and my sleep patterns went awry. My hypervigiliance kicked in and I could not seem to let go. As I go into several days without sleep, my thinking becomes more circular as well as faulty. Had my son not stepped in gracefully to assist with his offer from his side...I might still be up. Sometimes, I need to let go for things to work out in their own way and manner. I can not 'control' a situation by overthinking and fret.

 

[ms spock]

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/in-practice/201301/50-common-cognitive-distortions

"41. The belief that worry and overthinking will lead to problem solving insights."

I became entrenched in rumination and my sleep patterns went awry. My hypervigiliance kicked in and I could not seem to let go. As I go into several days without sleep, my thinking becomes more circular as well as faulty.

***pulls up some chairs, sits next to @Recovery4Me, pours some tea and glasses of water***

I am so there with you on that one!

Gosh I lived here for about 3 decades @Recovery4Me.

And you were right about the capital letters and tagging.

 

[ms spock]

23. Link Removed

For example, perceiving high calories foods as lower in calories if they’re accompanied by a salad.
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I don't just do this for food - I do it for people - for all manner of unhealthy things!

 

[Recovery4Me]

***pulls up some chairs, sits next to Link Removed, pours some tea and glasses of water***

Smiles largely and gets excited with Ms Spock kindness, tea and company in merriment. :) It is nice to see you this evening/day my friend.:hug:

I truly find that the fact that we do not always believe the same is very healthy and keeps us stronger with growth. You have redirected me in major paths and I thank you for your honesty as well as kindness. So any comments on my take of my distortions are welcomed for investigation or revisit!:tup:

Happy Holiday Ms Spock and to all.

 

[Recovery4Me]

I don't just do this for food - I do it for people - for all manner of unhealthy things!

23. Halo effect - me too! I actually taught this component in Human Resources section of business. They wanted to thwart cognitive distortions during work situations that required conflict resolution or disciplinary action.

Example for me:
Seeing a broken vase and blaming it on the cat rather than the dog, because I saw the cat do it before and the dog has been good lately. (Happened several years ago.)

Or...doubting myself on a traumatic exchange and/or event (ex: domestic abuse) because of the halo frequently exhibited by the perpetrator. Passive-aggressive confusion.

 

[ms spock]

***sits enjoying @Recovery4Me's company, and nods to her***

 

[Recovery4Me]

18. Using feelings as the basis of a judgment, when the objective evidence does not support your feelings.

This cognitive distortion (for me) can be a springboard to dive into a pool of reactions instead of being proactive, if I am not careful. Often when I become too tire or stressed, my inner dialog will minimize my progress, dismiss my choices, or pound negative onto my current situation. I have to remember feelings are not facts and try to reevaluate the actual evidence that often points otherwise. Moodiness is not objective evidence.:D

 

[ms spock]

21. Assuming your current feelings will stay the same in the future.

For example, “I feel unable to cope today, and therefore I will feel unable to cope tomorrow.”
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I operated out of this one for the longest time. I got stuck in this one as a child, and it went into my teens and then it bled in to my adult life!

If anyone hasn't taken the poll it is interesting to know: https://www.myptsd.com/threads/are-you-familiar-with-the-top-ten-distorted-cognitions.57711/page-2

 

[The Albatross]

I had listed the offenders in my diary...but they got edited out. and will come back later on to add them today here. BUT this one jumped out at me and was something I really didn't consider. I have a habit/behavior of ensconcing myself in a peer group and giving the group more sway than I do other people:

38. In-group bias. The tendency to trust and value people who are like you, or who are in your circle, more than people from different backgrounds.

I tend to think "us or them". I can see why this bias would not be particularly beneficial. I still trend toward separating myself out from others outside my own peer group in my day to day interactions with people. A degree of separation, if you will.