Constant arguments

[Punky143]

My husband and I can never had a conversation when conflicts arise. The reasons being- When the talking begins, it always starts with him. He has a different communication style and wants to talk about it and solve it. I'm the opposite: I can't process information quickly and definitely don't have an answer right away. I get nervous because no matter what, when trying to speak up I'm usually cut off or told I'm wrong.

Neighbors. They do not blend in with us others. They are ignorant, messy, rules don't apply, sleep all day and once they get up 2? Then noise sometimes until 2am. They argue, accuse each other of cheating, are physical and mentally abusive and I'm convinced they are dealing drugs based on random cars stopping in for minutes then leave.

It's miserable enough with my husband but to listen to the trash next door only motivates more to call the cops. My landlord tells us to mind our own business. A lot of negative energy.

 

[Friday]

Some people thrive off of arguments, some people arguments don’t touch whether they choose to engage or not, meanwhile others suffer the spectrum.

Are you looking to mitigate the effects of arguments, learning to recover faster; learn how to be less affected in the first place, or learn to enjoy/thrive off of them? Or…? More self confident in your own likes/dislikes/boundaries? Or…?

 

[abovedown]

My husband and I can never had a conversation when conflicts arise. The reasons being- When the talking begins, it always starts with him. He has a different communication style and wants to talk about it and solve it. I'm the opposite: I can't process information quickly and definitely don't have an answer right away. I get nervous because no matter what, when trying to speak up I'm usually cut off or told I'm wrong.

Neighbors. They do not blend in with us others. They are ignorant, messy, rules don't apply, sleep all day and once they get up 2? Then noise sometimes until 2am. They argue, accuse each other of cheating, are physical and mentally abusive and I'm convinced they are dealing drugs based on random cars stopping in for minutes then leave.

It's miserable enough with my husband but to listen to the trash next door only motivates more to call the cops. My landlord tells us to mind our own business. A lot of negative energy.

I have had issues in the past with some neighbors which have been very rude & hostile (if I see them outside they just state at me angrily or once shut the front door of the apartment house right in front of me so I couldn't get in the corridor. We don't seems to have a common language so communication is pretty hard. It took a tome but now I think it's not so much about me but more about them. Maybe they just don't like the neighborhood or whatever .

Then one couple had very loud dogs which barked abd howled all day & all night long. Talking to Mrs neighbor didn't help much but when I managed to contact Mr neighbor whose dogs they actually were, some improvement started happening. Once it was like 1 am and the dogs were once again howling. I called Mr neighbor who apologized (howling could clearly be heard from the background) abd said they had been in a party and were about to return to their apartment. After that incident they somehow managed to keep the dogs quieter. I guess they started to spend more time home do the dogs didn't feel so alone (hence howling & barking).

Sorry about the long intro . TLDR: Apartment buildings can be tough especially with loud and/or angry neighbors