Cps Called On Me B/c Mental Health

[sedna]

The worst thing in this situation would be losing my children. One I am borderline anyway so lon...

Its really unlikely that you'll lose your kids, just from what you said.

It is really important that you dont focus and talk about that all over the place. Especially around county workers and in parenting classes. It serves no purpose at all.
It will make you look unstable, and possibly like part of your parenting issues are unhealthy attachment oriented.

The phrases 'Overshare' and 'Way TMI' Never apply more than when you're dealing with the law or DSS, or the IRS for that matter but you get my point.

If you have a friend that would call DSS, why wouldnt they just help you themselves, or find a less threatening way to help you find resources?

If you asked them to call, why? There are other ways to get some help, that arent putting you so firmly on the defensive you know.

I'm sure it'll be fine, most the people in those positions really care. It might be a good idea to stop listing out everything you've been diagnosed with everywhere also, theres no shame in it, but it does hand people a lot to work with or maybe misunderstand about you.

 

[EveHarrington]

She complained about toys on the stairs?!?!

I don't think this woman is a friend!

Hear me out.

A friend would attempt to help you, talk to you, and see how they could help before turning you in to big brother.

This is why there are so many kids in REAL trouble (molested, beaten, etc) who don't get help. CPS is too busy worrying about clean stairs.

Id keep that tattle tale out of my home if I were you.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

. i am now on Abilify.

I hope that works for you!

 

[sedna]

She complained about toys on the stairs?!?!

I don't think this woman is a friend!

Hear me out....

I think so too. If you know somebody and actually care, and the kids arent being hurt at the moment, like an emergency, then you go talk to them.
If you dont have time to help you can always sit down with them and try to come up with resources together over a cup of coffee.

Some mom's always want to judge others so they feel better about themselves and can get nasty about it.

If her dog got out would she have called animal control or just brought it home and pointed out she needed a new fence? SMH

 

[Stickler]

The case worker met me in the hospital. There was no police officer with her. I got off of seriq...

Jeez, that sounds pretty freaking normal as regards to housecleaning.

Cluttered, dishes in the sink, mount Dirty Laundry...messy, but still basically under control.

We're not talking mice, roaches, rats, rotten food, maggots, poop on the floor, broken glass, et cetera...

 

[Stickler]

As regards it being legal for her to take photos? Hmm...

http://photo.stackexchange.com/ques...-online-a-photo-i-took-of-someone-elses-house

Answer appears to be yes.
But I'd never have that "friend" in my house again.

REAL hardcore abusive families don't have friends...
Unless the friends are just as messed up. Solves that problem.
And they often move around so nobody can see what's happening to the kids and/or the battered partner.
Thus...
The CPS workers probably know your kids are not at any real risk of abuse or neglect.

My suspicion is that the CPS people are HAVING to investigate due to regulations.
Also with the inspections and the parenting classes, it's probably required.

 

[joeylittle]

@trying2movefwd - I am confused, now.

You said in your OP that you asked a friend to call CPS, because you were concerned about your ability to take care of your kids.

Was this before, or after your hospital stay?

And, forgive me if I missed it - but who was able to watch your kids while you were in the hospital? How long were you in for?

I would encourage you to stop trying to compare your situation to others' in the neighborhood. I don't think that line of thinking is going to help you, much. There are many reasons why someone can need help with their kids. And you asked your friend to call them - right?

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Im glad im not the only one confused.

 

[Casey_03]

I understood this as a "friend" calling CPS on the OP over toys on the stairs and a generally messy house. It sounds like this supposed friend has way too much time on her hands, if her main problem was a messy house. I would, however, genuinely be worried about the sleeping all the time that you mentioned, though you also said you're off that medication now, so it seems like that problem should be solved. I don't have any experience with CPS, so I can't offer any advice there, but try not to work yourself up over fears your kids will be taken away -- that's only going to make matters worse. And if the only problem was a messy house and you sleeping a lot, I don't really see how they could possibly justify taking your kids away.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

I had a friend call CPS on me because

Ok, I re-read this and read it right the first time. You didnt ask them to, they did on their own saying you had someone do this to you.

Petty it seems, though I think there are some concerns, one has been aleivated, the house is cleaner, going to parenting classes, etc. I think as long as you do as they ask, your kids will stay with you. CPS generally dont want to seperate families if the issue can be fixed and you are doing a good job at that thus far. Just keep that up and all should be ok.

Im sorry this has happened though. Im sure it shook you up! :hug:

 

[joeylittle]

Thanks folks. I was mis-reading that pretty badly. Sorry, @trying2movefwd, for misunderstanding. You were clear, my brain was not.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I am so very sorry for not reading the correct way and now I understand the situation better. Good for you on being responsible and asking for help. I wish you the very best.