No-one is arguing not being on meds, but it is being informed of the risks. And having adequate support. Yes in your case
@Ms Spock you needed meds, and so did my daughter, I was trying with psychological help alone and it just wasn't working, fuelled to some extent by ex H. She got put on zoloft which helped her and in the end she got the ADHD diagnosis, as did my other 2 kids and I was initially very frightened of meds, and there is an awful lot of misinformation and bullshit about ADHD and meds on the internet. But being aware of the risks of not putting her and the other kids on meds far outweigh, the meds themselves as far as I understand it and the research goes (no not going for a debate on this, this is my experience, so anti-medders and ADHD diagnosis, I can see the improvements in my kids and they are massive, and we were heading down a very dark path otherwise I think)
However, if antidepressants can cause long term health problems, I need to be informed of that. This will affect what path we take next, we need a plan to get her off when she is ready and support to do that. Also, diagnosing the ADHD earlier for my younger kids will mean they don't have to go through so much stress at school and develop neural connections that will hopefully mean mild ADHD and hopefully no meds as adults. taking that as it comes. They also need therapy in addition to meds to help with this.
This also affects my path. I was well aware that antidepressants cause weight gain. I could not afford that weight gain, it not only depresses me, it affects my back and being immobile and alone, really pulls you down. But the stress was also affecting my back. If I could lead as stress free life as possible I would not have needed meds I reckon. If I could have got away and started afresh and made the life I want. But I can't. I took up the masters, which I knew would be a challenge, (understatement) and also brings with it a whole load of confidence issues and triggers) So increases in stress, due to studying, plus situation with my ex, plus 3 ADHD kids, plus triggers etc. and having absolutely no family and very few friends for support and then final contribution to the perfect storm my back going. Wham I was close to being put in a mental ward. Couldn't risk that, (would have lost my kids) and ended up dead. And they would force you on any med they felt necessary, probably ones that cause weight gain, and affect sleep and concentration and whatever they overdose you on to get you out of hospital quickly and say they have saved your life. I was terrified of meds due to what happened to my sister, even more terrified of psychiatrists and mental hospitals. My psychologist had been trying to get me on meds for ages, I refused, but had to give in then. Unfortunately you don't have all that choice as someone with mental issues.
By giving in I got to research meds and insist they put me on one that is known to not cause weight gain (even though it is not PBS and I have to pay a fortune for it). I had that information. I decided I would try the best meds for me, not them push SSRI's on me as my GP was trying to do. It does help with the anxiety I think but no way the depression which has been caused by all the trauma and my life being completely smashed to pieces so I have to pick them up and actually re-evaluate just about everything I had believed. Plus the antichrist is still around and my kids are my first priority.
They are the best thing for me at the moment. But I need to be informed if there are health implications of long term usage. That means I will be pushing to come off sooner rather than later, and means I really need to get my life situation less stressful somehow.
The more information the better choices we can make. I guess. But also, I just cannot rely on meds alone, I need that extra support, as that will get me off them quicker anyway.
@Ms Spock if you had the right support plus meds, things would have been different perhaps, it is the combination, meds alone would not have helped in that environment from how you are explaining it??