Poll Do You Find It Difficult To Talk About How You Feel?

[KBE]

I know this all very well. it's best to get away from such people. I see no point to talk with them.

...I am man, sometimes I tend to cry, some people tell me I am girlish. Really? Is this true?

In my case, they were my parents, so there is only so far away I could get. They're both dead now, so it's just the memories. Is ,that better or worse?

Men have as much right to cry as women. Anyone who cries non stop would make me uncomfortable, regardless of gender. But I personally think men who don't cry are scared. Scared to allow themselves to truly experience their feelings.

You've got my e-shoulder to cry on dude, if you need it.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I never knew I had the right to feelings. And I did not have anyone to talk to about what was going on. I was talked to. No one listened to me that was a parent or grandparent. So I never learned how to talk about my feelings. I just kept it all inside with no where to go. I am getting better at it now.

 

[KBE]

I never knew I had the right to feelings.

I hear that. I still have a hard time to be honest even with myself over how I feel. Forget about telling others.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I know what you mean. I can tell if I feel good or bad. I can tell a few feelings but I am not very familiar with them. I tend to push myself when I do not want to do something really. What I think is good for me, makes me feel bad and anxious and I am learning to listen to my feelings.

 

[Tanishq]

Men have as much right to cry as women. Anyone who cries non stop would make me uncomfortable, regardless of gender. But I personally think men who don't cry are scared. Scared to allow themselves to truly experience their feelings.

Nice post. I wish more people had this understanding in this world. At least majority.

Thank you for e-shoulder KBE. :)

 

[Tanishq]

I never knew I had the right to feelings. And I did not have anyone to talk to about what was going on.

I listen you. :hug:

 

[Springer80]

I think I'm frightened to admit good feelings I have because I'm scared of divulging my attachment to something. Claiming anything good or expressing I cared about anything was used against me. Similarly admitting I'm hurt showed a weakness that I could be damaged more by. I wish I could snap out of these ones because they really cause me problems now.

Also, I never was educated and encouraged to exercise a sense of who I was on my own terms. I was always a vehicle for my adult conflict and later abuse. It never occurred to me that I was of any value in my own right. There was always the feeling I had to earn my position, trade for my security.

 

[Violet03]

Yes, it is very difficult to talk about how I feel. This is not only because I do not know how to put it into words but because I am afraid. I was never allowed to express myself as a child so to talk about how I feel today does not feel safe. I also feel like nobody would understand. They would just get upset with me. They also probably don't really care.

So, I just try my best to hold everything in and only say what I think people want to hear. When I cannot do that I try to be invisible.

 

[Britt.f7]

It depends on the people, but, most the time I am afraid of what people will think or how they will react.

 

[aka]

I learned very early that most people get uncomfortable if I bring up anything that has to do with my trauma. So the answer to the question is yes I find it extremely difficult to talk about my feelings. Mostly because I am scared how they will react or think of me. The really sad part though is even though i am scared I still crave understanding and acceptance from others. So because the two emotions are constantly at odds with each other I find it easier to just ignore both and not engage with anyone.

 

[Sues]

I've always been seen as this strong person. People think I have my act together. Hey, what can I say, I'm good at faking it. No one knows about my PTSD. They wouldn't believe me anyway.

No one knows what all I've been through. No one knows how bad it's been. There are things that I can't even say to myself, so there's no way I can tell them to anyone else.

 

[Chrissyy]

I said yes because I find it hard to put it into words.

I always feel like I'm saying it wrong, or that they won't understand what I mean, or I'll offend someone. I always think it over so much in my head that it stops making sense and isn't a "good enough" way to describe it. I find it really hard to sum it up in one word.