Do You Find It Strangely Easy To Lie?

[maddog]

Thanks Sandra and Gigi for your responses, that was hard to write and something I'm not sure I'm glad I did, but your responses helped. Ironically, it was the horribel lie I told in adulthood that was the trigger to beat all triggers that tore open the packing tape on the past in the first place, and so some day, maybe I'll even be thankful for it. That's what I try to tell myself anyway.

And of course I didn't really address the other aspect of your post Gigi, about lying to protect yourself from the nature of your past. Gosh, I did this for years, right up until lasst year in fact. It can't have been that bad... my parents were just sick, confused, didn't know any better... I deserved it... it was all my fault...

Some of these internal lies die easier than others. As I said, I wonder if some of them live on forever.

God, this makes me cry.

Maddog

 

[Sandra]

Big hugs for MD.

 

[Sandra]

I deserved it... it was all my fault.

It is not your fault. So don't even think it.

 

[Deimos]

I lie every time I meet someone. They say "How ya doing?" I respond with "Good and you?"

On a serious note, I think with PTSD by nature we lie. It's how I survived my trauma and kept functioning in the real world.

 

[Sazza]

Bit of a mixed one for me. I don't like being lied to so i avoid lying to others all that about expecting others to treat you like you would them. I prefer people to be open with me yet i struggle to be open with others this is not because i am being awkward its more because i find it hard to trust and let people in.

I try not to lie where possible, i have however lied with regards to how i feel not intentionally but more because fear of being open has scared me that much that it has been easier. I have this barrier that comes up inside me a protection thing that sometimes means i lie when i don't mean to mainly about how i feel though. I feel guilty lying and of late admit to telling a fair few lies whihc i am ashamed to have to admit. At the moment i feel like a part of my life is a lie because i am keeping things about my illness from those closest to me, to do that i have had to tell some lies alone the way not full lies just had tell few white ones to protect them from the truth as i don't want them worrying. Blimey writing this making me realise i am a lier and i hate lies but sometimes needs must. I am not going to make excuses up but for me sometimes i find it easier to lie a little with regards to my situation to avoid any fuss.

I actually feel really angry and bad now realising i am more of a liar than i thought :(, please do not judge me when you don't know my circumstances.

 

[Sandra]

I lie every time I meet someone. They say "How ya doing?" I respond with "Good and you?".

Well I can understand that response since most people don't want to hear about aches and pains.

 

[Sandra]

A lot of reasons I don't lie is cause I have a bad memory. :laugh:

 

[maddog]

That's funny Sandra, and true. The problem with lying is that you have to remember what you said...

MD

 

[Sandra]

One of the symptoms of thyroid disease is memory loss.

 

[atl22]

Best way to deal with it. ;)

Yes, but it definitely is not as fun as spontaneously making up an absurd story just to see the reaction on their face. Also, it's a good way to find out if my friends could be trusted. Sometimes, I would ask them not to tell anyone. Then, an hour after I told them, I would get a phone call from a different angry friend. "I knew that was a bad zoo! How dare they not secure that elephant! I'm going to call them right now and give them a piece of my mind!" (Actual quote.)

 

[Sandra]

Yes, but it definitely is not as fun as spontaneously making up an absurd story just to see the reaction on their face.

I know what you mean.I have been going to the wound care clinic for this gash that's been on my leg for over 3 and a half years now. When the nurses ask me how it happened. I tell them I saw a man walking down the street and thought he was rich with one foot in the grave and the other on a banana peel. And I fell down some cement stairs when I was chasing him. So far none of them have bought that story. :roflmao:

 

[AngelaMarie]

This is one of the threads that I am so glad to see so many truthful answers! One of the reasons I love the forum!:)