Left on my own devices I am relatively tidy. But I am married to a man who loves his stuff and it has slowey but surely taken over the house, three sheds and the attic. As my mom and mother in law are hoarders, it really plays hell with my ADD/ADHD. I find it quite anxiety producing to attempt initiating independ choices to deal with it in my home and in both of their homes. But I've had just about enough. I am tired of hearing, for example, "It will be better when I remodel the bathroom and bedrooms." Um that was 5 years ago. I am getting more assertive at home and have been helping our respective mothers deal with their "hoard" for this past year. It is frustrating.
Today I came in and instead of being able to clean, I helped move around my mom's hoard so she could bring in three bakers racks for her hobby area. No furniture went out. I had to cue myself to breathe. Minor setbacks only, but she did validate me a bit after last week when she acted out (my mom) and said "You live the same way I do." She did recollect that when I lived alone, it was not sparse, but it was attractively decorated, neat and tidy. I was single then though.
I said "Other"
Off topic a bit, but I just came in and am still a bit overwrought about my mom's house. We aren't cleaning it up so she can bring in more stuff... she needs to be able to accomidate her zero gravity chair, a walker and one day a wheel chair. It just ain't happening.