Ursa, if you look up re the recent neuroscience and psychotherapy research [Cozolino, Schore] you'll see how emotional regulation can be cultivated through a psychotherapeutic relationship. This applies a lot to very early, relational trauma - of which I have/had in bucketloads. I'd explain more, but it's probably mostly out of the range of this discussion. pm me if you'd like to know more. :)