Thanks Nic, I do hear you about not ever letting him think there are no consequences for these actions. But either way, it does not seem as though it will be an issue. It is almost certainly over. He is being very hateful. He has messaged me and been nasty this morning. I ignored it.
Bec, separated? Not even really. His words were that he needed some time away from me as he could not handle the fighting anymore. He said he did not want to end up hating me. That was due to my ignorance at how to care for a PTSD sufferer.Since as I have ranted before, no bastards told us what the deal with this bloody thing was really all about! So anyway, we never set ground rules with the "separation" in that regard. I had hoped to, once I felt he was more approachable,as I was trying to hard not to push him. And to be honest the boundaries I had planned on discussing with him were going to be more to do with how much and what sort of contact and support he was willing to accept and ways in which he could let me know if he needed more or less. I don't think infidelity would have even been discussed.
Secondly Bec, I take your point that it may hav seemed as though I was not giving him space, but the last few times I saw him and brought him things (food, clean clothes,etc.) he had responded well and others here on the forum encouraged me to slowly stick at whatever seemed to be working. In retrospect, he my have been semi-perceptive out of guilt I think.
I was only doing what I felt at the time was right. Seems without knowing any better and without meaning to,I may have stuffed it all up again.
