Explosive Anger and How to Control It

[sticks-and-stones]

Anger

ARGHhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!

 

[sticks-and-stones]

Does anyone else get that wave of anger? I understand the science behind it, but how, in practice, can a tiny little unrelated thing cause so much anger?

I can feel my pulse race, I'm unable to concentrate (writing this actually seems to help me focus my mind) I want to scream and shout but no sound comes out and whatever I was doing before seems pointless now.

 

[popeye]

Sticks I understand it completely. I am not sure if alot of us have this problem but for me I feel that things need to be in control in some way and if they are not in control or at least the way they should be I fly off the handle. like simple things such as a mess made in the bathroom by the kids after a bath. for me the water must be wiped up right away if they drip or splash some onto the floor and if it is not i flip out.
There was so much for me that was out of my control concerning my PTSD that I feel I have to have everything in control now and if not I go into a rage until it's fixed or my rage burns itself out.

 

[Andrew Ware]

Since i developed PTSD I also got explosive anger that comes with it. I used to be a very relaxed guy until you pushed me too far. and even then it wasn't that bad I might shout and that's about it. But since the trauma I have developed a "RAGE" that doesn't give any warning of it's arrival and doesn't leave easily... Xanax is helping but I hate taking my pills. Any one else have this problem and if so how do you deal with it?

Popeye, I'm in the same boat as you..!! I was told I have ptsd from several mind-therapists. Bummer. A "Blowout" is effin exhausting and takes me godd knows how long to recover. My buttons were irreverently pushed by this effin cow. and I just went THT-Postal ! Sertraline ( Zolft ) helps...it's an excellent anti-depressant for me..I am not sure but if you can get a psychiatrist to give you the ptsd ''stamp' you may (??) qualify for "Americans with Disabiklities Act."..I am not sure..but am looking into. PTSD..ain't it a far-king nuisance...to put it mildly...chin up mate..

 

[Andrew Ware]

Does anyone else get that wave of anger? I understand the science behind it, but how, in practice, can a tiny little unrelated thing cause so much anger?

I can feel my pulse race, I'm unable to concentrate (writing this actually seems to help me focus my mind) I want to scream and shout but no sound comes out and whatever I was doing before seems pointless now.

One thing I see in myself, maybe, is a lot to do with 'self-worth'. A lifetime memory of people who cheese-grated your self esteem from child days, thru school, bullying, never listened to, ignored at dire times, never counted, never in, These things or linked things, can be like a fuse-wire when lit by the sob's flicking a sparky "Ronson" that then gets the flame and applies it to your big black ball marked "Bomb".

 

[Andrew Ware]

Almost a ptsd joke :- "I am 51% nice guy, and 49% explosive TNT bad-guy. Don't push me !" I blew recently, cost me my job, gain. I lasted a good 5 years.. The trigger was this obese lady, arrogant, rude, demeaning and degrading, who began to shout at me as if I was feudal-era serf ! Fk ! I'm 62 and I'm effed if I'm letting you get away with that..I ain't no coward..and I blew like Mt. St. Helens. Whew ! this ptsd is exhausting. So, back to zen meditation then etc.

 

[sky dancer]

Gee,

Here's a club I have mixed feelings about joining. I've a real problem with my anger too. That's all I can say for now. I'm so sick of it I can't even write about it now.

sky

 

[Esqlto]

I'm insane, I understand what you are having issues with. I am very relaxed normally and share everything and am a kind person but the moment I get pushed to far, I see red and completely explode. I have attacked friends and can get so scary that I'm worried when I get too close to people. I am scared to hurt people especially those who are closest to me, I can't control myself. I have tried very hard but when something ticks that's it. I am also lucky I have not been to jail or gotten killed yet.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Raging is a choice we allow ourselves to be devoured by and the destruction is complete. It drives the people you love away from you for fear of you.

Giving into your rage is not good at all. You are aware and that is a good thing.

When I was a teenager I would get into uncontrollable rages and then I would feel shame and guilt and try to clean up the mess I made.

What got me into therapy was my anger came back and I knew I needed help. I took an anger management class and learned so much.

Being aware of it and wanting to change is a very good start. I wish you the best on your healing journey.