I have been this place many times before were I have said I am distancing myself from the family situation as it is now but it really feels for real this time...I have realised sometimes you need to have a few more trys before you can call a giraffe a giraffe and an unhealthy situation an unhealthy situation and from this try to end all trys I finally know what the problem was all all along is that I have grew up in a family that would not let me have any boundaries...sometimes on a very subtle level such as disregarding my efforts to be assertive..sometimes very violently ...I was nearly beaten for trying to set a boundary it would have happened if someone had not have pulled my sister back...the other problem I identified was that I am an emapath and a my family engage in a lot of energy stealing behaviours and being an emapath this is dreadfully exhausting.. but its great now I know exactly what the problems are and what I need to do to solve them....
I wrote my sister a letter today letting her know of my decision . I have changed my phone number as I have learned that mobile phones are a disaster when it comes to having boundaries. they would just phone and text me any time of the day or night to try and suck me into one drama or another...but I have let them have my address and have said they can always write to me...I feel much more safer and in control now as it takes more planning to write a letter so they cannot go calling me and texting me on a whim..and as I will be able to tell were the letter has come from...I live in a different city..i will be able to decide when to take a look.
I wrote my sister a letter today letting her know of my decision . I have changed my phone number as I have learned that mobile phones are a disaster when it comes to having boundaries. they would just phone and text me any time of the day or night to try and suck me into one drama or another...but I have let them have my address and have said they can always write to me...I feel much more safer and in control now as it takes more planning to write a letter so they cannot go calling me and texting me on a whim..and as I will be able to tell were the letter has come from...I live in a different city..i will be able to decide when to take a look.
