Finding It Hard To Bond With Other People

[Deleted member 29920]

Yes I just find people unpredictable. And that is scary. You're not alone.

 

[Ocean5]

I agree with what everyone else said.

It's strange not wanting to be alone but not wanting to be with anyone at the same time.

Yes strange, and truly relate. But sometimes with our past our minds view all people as threat or abandonment in end.. Easier to stay in bed, and try to create fantasy world.

 

[Teasel]

Sad to say I relate also. Especially when I am in a bad spell or blip as you call it. Very very very much I can say especially when I am in a bad spell.

Did you feel you developed a good rapport with this therapist? I can relate to feelng bad about losing a therapist very much indeed. But if the rapport was good then multiply that by a hell of a lot...?

As for asking for help when I need it... I might be able to ask if the chance of said person hearing me or reacting compassionately was zero or near enough zero...
And much as I long to hate or blame them for their not caring I realise I am not well able to cope with caring, or people who can be intimate and loving.

 

[GG2489]

This does not make you a bad person, yet I relate to the feeling somewhat. I used to feel very flawed or d...

Thank you so much for your message. My therapist is suppose to be coming back just neither of us knows when.
She is the first therapist I have had in years as my last therapist tried to groom me and is now in prison. It was hard to open up again especially as during the court case lots of my private thoughts were shared for all to hear..
Thank you for your kind words..
Georgia

 

[lostforgottensoul]

my last therapist tried to groom me and is now in prison. It was hard to open up again especially as during the court case lots of my private thoughts were shared for all to hear..

Thats horrible! Im so sorry that happened!!

You are SO brave to try again!

I know you werent speaking to me so I hope you dont mind me saying that.

As someone that came onto every therapist, including the one I have now whom gave me the term transference, in my head it was "what I was supposed to do", not what I wanted to do and two of them acted on my come ons and did sexual acts with me. I was so scared to talk to my current therapist and it took me a year to even tell him why I was there.

I think grooming is a while new level of creep in my opinion and I think that makes you so brave and Im so proud of you!

Just go as slow as you need to, not sure if you have said if your new therapist knows this or not but I would make it known, so they also will go slow. Building trust after that is gonna take time and i say i would go as slow as you need to.

Your courage insires me! :hug:

 

[Ocean5]

My therapist is suppose to be coming back

That is something to look forward too. I was so afraid of therapy and opening up. Even in college an ex tried to get me to see someone. Finally I did, but was still scared as hell. So I went to a psychiatrist that also did psychotherapy long after, and some traumatic events that brought everything to surface. I had great insurance then, and didn't want to talk to 2 people about past. It was just too hard. Just wanted to be stable again.

You are very brave. I feel for you. When I was a teenager much came into public, and court, about a cousin. She ended up in hospital for months after... I hope your old therapist comes back soon. Maybe ask her to do phone or video sessions? (But I don't know how UK health care works.)

 

[GG2489]

That is something to look forward too. I was so afraid of therapy and opening up. Even in college an ex t...

Thank you for your reply. It saddens my heart when I hear so many people suffering as I do. I wish you all the best.
My therapist is AMAZING. I have been in therapy on and off since I was 13 I am now 39. She is the first therapist to help me see things clearer. Having that clarity was helping me unravel things.
She had to leave as she was volunteering her time and her other jobs hours changed. She wants to return and wants therapy to be her main job. I just hope and prey she returns soon. It's been over three months since our last session and it took over a year and a half to finally start getting somewhere. Not because of her because of the therapist I had before who tried to groom me and others and is now in prison.
I am very grateful to her and hope to see her again.
Keep strong my friend!!! X