Sexual Assault For Jadebear

[Nicolette]

I read this today Jade (edited slightly as extracts of a piece) .............

Often when a decision is very difficult and causes strong emotional resistance within us, we allow our weaker nature to rule. However, in many of these situations it is a brave heart and clear mind that help us see through the fog of unruly emotion and step onto our true path. But because we cannot see clearly in dim light we doubt ourselves and hold back from taking the steps forward.


Sometimes you need to take a step back and view your situation from a different perspective and with a calmer logic.

It isn't always easy to gain clarity: we often can't 'see the wood for the trees'. The path to clarity and understanding is a challenging one, yet despite the emotional wrenches you may feel, it is right for you. Avoidance to take action or make a tough decision about a certain situation is simply due to fear of loss. Courage is always needed to conquer fear, so take your time. With patience you will find the clarity you seek.



Source: Lotus tarot

 

[jadebear]

Thanks for taking the time to post that Nicolette. I appreciate it.

Sometimes you need to take a step back and view your situation from a different perspective and with a calmer logic.

It's hard to take a step back when I feel so caught up in it all. I don't know how to distance myself from the emotional part of it to be able to look at it rationally most of the time.

Fear of loss is such a big part of it. And the feeling of betrayal. I know it's wrong to put up with stuff, overlook things, cover up, make excuses, etc. when it comes to others, but it's a hard thing to change. I know I'm very, very co-dependent. It feels like such a betrayal to even want to put myself and what I want and need first.

 

[Denna]

If you can perhaps predict what you / another may feel after a few events then perhaps you can anticipate how your feeling may affect your behaviours, and how your behaviour may affect others so you have the ability to plan in advance if you get what I mean. If you have been cheated and you feel betrayed that feeling comes out no matter what, in what ever behaviour, others perhaps only want you to be happy, because you being happy makes them happy.

Do not buy into matyrdom, point out to others when they do something that makes you feel good, because people enjoy making someone else feel good.