Forgiving ourselves...

[Jewelz742200]

I had to forgive myself for blowing up at a meeting at work. My supervisor is a jerk. She puts us all down and acts like a child herself. She is forever blowing her top getting pissed off

 

[Vee]

I hear ya. Hang in there.

I had a bad day at work today as well :(

 

[Jewelz742200]

I just a fight with my girlfriend.

What is the use of talking about stuff if you end up if both people end up pissed off

 

[seabadger]

That’s my whole point. Many times we are our toughest critics. We get upset with ourselves for doing things when we should not...

I have this issue to a fairly extreme extent atm. I was on drugs for a long time and taking the path of least resistance in life, the guilt and shame of that is near unbearable. I can resolve it to some extent by every day listening to myself and challenging myself, doing my best to grow through it. Going swimming in the sea all year round for example is a challenge I been using to face fear, it definitely does help but then when I go through periods of not doing anything, the shame and guilt builds.

 

[Changing4Best]

I forgive myself for being unable to forgive myself for some things I did with an abusive boyfriend just to survive. I am just so grateful that I don't have to do those things any longer. I let them go now, along with some balloons and red ribbons rising in the sky! It's OVER forever!

 

[Kopykat]

@Vee i think this is the hardest part for me. I have a lot of toxic guilt and shame. I certainly am my own worst critic and there’s nothing anyone can say that I haven’t already said to myself. My therapist was surprised at how vicious my inner critic can be. I have a hard time accepting also that this isn’t all my fault. I wasn’t just a bad kid that got what they deserved. I had a tough relationship w my mom and she passed before we could work on it. I like to romanticize that and think we could have been amicable...I’m just not sure that’s true bc we were so different. I think we all carry a lot of grief and baggage for what could have been or what we never had

 

[shimmerz]

I haven't had a chance to read through this posting. Hopefully I am not stealing someone else's thoughts here but the first thing that came to my mind after reading the OP's posting was:

I forgive myself for having a body. When I have a body they can hurt me; maim me; kill me.

I couldn't love my body at the same time that it was used as a weapon against me.

Now? Still working on it.