Fun Things To Do With Your Partner?

[Justmehere]

What is your favorite thing to do on a date as a PTSD sufferer or supporter?

I'm slowly venturing into dating again, not yet sure if I am ready or not.

I don't like nosiey hectic clubs or big events with lots of people. Too much to deal with in addition to the stress of a first or second date. Movies are a hard way to get to know someone. Sitting and staring at each other over coffee is just plain awkward.

So I have been trying out going to a museum together. It gives us something to look at (other than each other) while talking. I need more ideas. It's nice when someone asks me out to coffee, but it's also somehow too much pressure to just face each other and walk on a date in a new relationship. I like it when we have something to do too.

So what do you all like to do on dates with new or long term partners?

 

[Truthful_Whispers]

I find a nature themed date to be more relaxing, such as taking a walk by a scenic lake or going to a nice park. That being said, my dating experiences within the last year weren't that great. Well...they were, until the gals I dated went bonkers on me. lol Granted, this was online dating--which I don't recommend for anyone--unless they are a glutton for punishment.

 

[Peach]

I know how you feel, I like an activity, as well. You're right about the loud or speech prohibitive places where you can't talk - useless!

I've had great times at museums, scenic tourist traps, State Parks, Sunday drives, parks with short walking trails to do some bird watching, the zoo (but we both felt bad for the animals which wasn't fun), swimming, playing music in the livingroom and we'd just sit and chat, shopping, watched movies together at his place, we cooked meals together, horseback riding, canoeing, camping, stargazing, playing cards or a boardgames, dance party in the livingroom, hockey game, fishing, gun range, even doing chores around the house like painting a room.....

 

[hodge]

Taking a hike in a local park can be great.

 

[Kefira]

I also like hiking and parks. Hanging out and playing board games is always fun, and you can get a little competitive banter going. I like cooking, so that's always fun to be able to cook for my partner. Museums, aquariums, zoos, all of those sorts of places are great.

 

[Glara]

I guess it also depends where you live. Some places on the coast have boardwalks. Great places for dates. There's plenty to do and see and still the opportunity to talk. Any type of place that has multiple entertainment venues that are walking distance. Places you can stroll, eat, drink, window shop, catch some live music. Maybe bowling, mini golf or something similar. You can be active and still chat.

 

[Mallaky]

Cooking can be a great, great date activity. 2nd date and onwards I would say.People laugh at and laugh at me when I suggest it, but once they try they see the light. :roflmao:

 

[Changing4Best]

My friend George and I go out to eat at an uncrowded restaurant here in town. If I am feeling bashful, I can look down and not feel so awkward. Also, when you eat, you need to look at the food to be able to cut it and put it on my or our fork and so on. George is on a lot of meds same as me. I know he is mentally ill, but I don't pry by asking him what it is. He never asked me mine either, so we just don't talk about that.

 

[Friday]

A few months back I realized that my absolute favorite date idea was "Hey.... Ya wanna come take a nap with me?" :p OH yeah! I'm exciting :hilarious:

I've never really been a dinner & a movie girl, much less a sit around and talk for the sake of talking chick. I've always been a "do something" kind of girl. Being able to sit around smoking & BS'ing is kind of baseline, not something I generally do on purpose. A lot of these assume I actually know & like the person well. Some are first date or 500th.

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Home-ish... Sleeping bags & a truck bed & watching the stars. Cooking. Camping. Trading sexual favors for trips to the fridge. Lay on the couch marathoning something on netflix. Gaming. Pub@home.

Sports-ish... Snowboarding. Surfing. Fishing. Crabbing. Rappelling (I'm not into climbing, I'm very much into falling. With brakes. Not breaks. ;)). Trapeze. Pool (billiards). Swimming & diving. Horseback riding / horse care in general. Jet skis. Tailgating. Sparring. Shooting.

Exploring... Roadtripping. Sailing. Urban spelunking. Awkward ways to get somewhere. Different cultures.

Arts... (LOL. I am waaaay too much of a visual artist to handle museums with other people. Totally different kind of disassociation :peeking:) Concerts, esp outdoor music festivals. Circuses.

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Most of these, now that I look at them, have the common thread of being a single activity that has breaks built in.

 

[Truthful_Whispers]

If you want to really have some fun, purchase some exercise tapes for your partner for Christmas. That is fun...NOT.

 

[Candleflames]

I have a favorite bar I like to go to. It's a little on the dark side and has very tall booths so it feels intimate. They also have art shows so there's lots to look around at.

I also like to go places off season. So I like the beach and lakeside in the fall and winter and mountains in the summer.

One of my all time favorite date place in the local mini-golf place. You're doing something, talking, changing scenery and you don't run into other groups much.

 

[Ronin]

Planning dates.
Going on dates. Spacing out. Dragging each other from spacing out :D

... Sharing the good and bad in whatever form sharing comes, at the time.