Childhood Have You Told Your Abuser(s) You Have Ptsd?

[Deleted member 30956]

How did it go?

 

[Blackbird89]

It came out during trial and honestly, it didn't seem to phase him.

But my healing isn't about him and he's the one who has to live with the knowledge of what happened and the aftermath.

 

[Kintsugi]

My abuser(s) know I have PTSD. I don't know when the one who gave it to me found out, but I'm positive he knows. He must. How did it go? He's a selfish, narcissistic piece of shit who is incapable of real empathy and remorse. I don't think it means a f*cking thing to him.

 

[Blackbird89]

My abuser(s) know I have PTSD. I don't know when the one who gave it to me found out, but I'm positi...

This is pretty much exactly how I'd describe my abuser.

 

[Melody coates]

f*ck no and that's how i want it to stay. my abuser knowing won't change anything. She gonna stay the same wretched woman.

 

[Fadeaway]

I didn't tell them personally, no, but they know. I don't know if they have an understanding of what it means though.

 

[Weemie]

My primary contact is dead. I am sure that he knows on some level that what he did caused harm. He may not have made a connection to being the cause of PTSD. He was older, and from a generation that didn't believe in PTSD or know much about it.

Everyone else... I am sure, as well, that they know on some level that what they do causes harm. Acute and irreparable. But it is cognitive dissonance. They balance future harm of a stranger against instant gratification of their own needs, their own pain, and determine that a stranger's life is less valuable to them than their own immediate needs.

That's how abuse works. I am sure they know, they just don't care.

 

[void]

Yes.
If you tell him/her/them you must be in an advanced state, imo.
They will not understand and it will change nothing.

For me, it went very well. For them it did not.
I was completely ready.
Do yourself a favor, be truly ready before you do this.

 

[Truthful_Whispers]

My abuser is dead. And, while 10% of me tries to forgive, the other 90% of me hopes whatever hell he is in right now is hot enough for him..

 

[void]

My abuser is dead. And, while 10% of me tries to forgive, the other 90% of me hopes whatever he...

Gently whispered*:shy:
Will that wish harm him?
or will it only harm you?

:)

 

[Truthful_Whispers]

Gently whispered*:shy:
Will that wish harm him?
or will it only harm you?

:)

I understand where you are coming from. But..I am permanently 'harmed', that will never change. He died of cancer in the early 1980's, after my mom divorced him. And, if he were still alive today, he would certainly die by my hands. I have carried a lifetime of anger and pain because of that twisted sob.

 

[Truthful_Whispers]

I understand where you are coming from. But..I am permanently 'harmed', that will never change....

I know that sounds rage-filled, harsh and psychotic, and it probably is. But, I have several years of my life that I have no recollection of because of him. I have spent almost 30 years of my life weight training to be stronger, studying martial arts and other fighting skills, all to protect myself from and exact revenge on a man that died decades ago. He haunts me. I was a defenseless child that he literally tortured for years, my best friend back then, a little girl who was kind to me and cared about me, was taken from my room and raped by him while she was over visiting one day. He tortured my mother, abused both of my younger brothers, who were just babies at the time. And, had actually tried to kill the youngest of my two brothers while he was still in my mother's womb. My brother doesn't know about that. This was a cruel, sadistic, perverted, and genuinely evil man. And..this man was a police officer.