StressedOutHusband
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Each day that passes is beginning to make me fill with more and more resentment. I know mg wife has a major challenge she's dealing with in PTSD. However, she did something I didnt like concerning our children the other day. Nothing drastic....but she should have arned me about it. I called her up and let her know that I and quote "Baby, I dont like that." She tore into me like two gators fighting over supper. She blew up at me...and within seconds, I found myself at it with her yet again. We are both upper level managers in our respective professions. Im direct and anal....she's direct and is still in denial about being somewhat anal. Yes, throw in a lttle PTSD and we are our own regular bag of pop rocks here as of late. She chewed me out so bad that I snapped back without thinking. Im just worn out. Out of frustration with her treatment of me on the call, I went around her to undo what she had done. I was wrong, but so was the entire exchange.
Now for the problem. I get home, walk up to her and apologize. I shared with her that I could have been more kind about the situation. Moments later she found that I had taken the necessary steps to undo what she had done. I explained once more that I was wrong for doing it but she really hurt me by dogging me like she did. She then looks at me and says what I did by going around her to undo what she had done was abusive. Man, I'm devastated. And here's why...
1. Her Mom has lived with us off and on for 2.5 of the 5 years of our marriage. Shes with us now as we are buying furniture for yet another apartment for her mom.
2. Her brother moved in while we helped him attain his GED.
3. Her sister is on the way with her daughter for a week's stay with plans to stay with us while she considers relocating.
4. We send for two of her teenage cousins once per year.
Yet, I am labeled an abuser....put in the same category as those who violated her and left us to pick up the pieces. Im not angry. Im not even hurt. I am speechless (which is rare for me). I no longer want to vacation with her this summer. Im shut down and off...and to add icing on the cake, I'm sleeping alone cor the second night since it happened. Why is it that the PTSDer gets to do whatever they want and the supporter gets stuck with a bag of sour grapes? I love my wife, and im not going anywhere. But I am seriously wondering how am I supposed to put my feelings in my back pocket?
Now for the problem. I get home, walk up to her and apologize. I shared with her that I could have been more kind about the situation. Moments later she found that I had taken the necessary steps to undo what she had done. I explained once more that I was wrong for doing it but she really hurt me by dogging me like she did. She then looks at me and says what I did by going around her to undo what she had done was abusive. Man, I'm devastated. And here's why...
1. Her Mom has lived with us off and on for 2.5 of the 5 years of our marriage. Shes with us now as we are buying furniture for yet another apartment for her mom.
2. Her brother moved in while we helped him attain his GED.
3. Her sister is on the way with her daughter for a week's stay with plans to stay with us while she considers relocating.
4. We send for two of her teenage cousins once per year.
Yet, I am labeled an abuser....put in the same category as those who violated her and left us to pick up the pieces. Im not angry. Im not even hurt. I am speechless (which is rare for me). I no longer want to vacation with her this summer. Im shut down and off...and to add icing on the cake, I'm sleeping alone cor the second night since it happened. Why is it that the PTSDer gets to do whatever they want and the supporter gets stuck with a bag of sour grapes? I love my wife, and im not going anywhere. But I am seriously wondering how am I supposed to put my feelings in my back pocket?
