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Holiday (all of 'em!) Stress

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Is it January yet?:eek: I made it through Thanksgiving...but now starts the Christmas season. I would love to just simplify the whole thing as we have gotten so far away from the true meaning of Christmas. However, the rest of my family doesn't see it that way...so we meet in the middle.

I think the biggest thing for me right now is the amount of social activity that occurs during this time of year. I am doing good to go for coffee once a week with a trusted friend...and all of a sudden I am supposed to do several social events a week?
 
Good for you Lisa that you set boundaries for your own well being.

Proud of you

Thanks, Nicolette! I made sure my husband was sitting right next to me (moral support) when I made the announcement.

It is for my well being...but man, that was a tough one.

Lisa
 
I made sure my husband was sitting right next to me (moral support) when I made the announcement.

Good work Lisa for being strong and smart enough to use the resources around you to get through a difficult situation and turning it into an empowering one :thumbs-up
 
In an effort to keep the holidays as stress-free (or as close to it as possible) I talked to my family about changing the normal decoration and location of the tree. I got the ok to do whatever I felt I needed to do. I went to the store with my youngest and we found a simple tree of lights. I put it on the side board next to my dining table.

That way it's out of the main family area (and I didn't have to move things to put up the usual tree) and if I don't want to look at it, I don't have to. It's surprising how much just two changes have helped me so far. Plus buying all gifts online this year and avoiding the shops is one of the biggest help.

My oldest daughter was asking about Christmas dinner. I told her that I was thinking about buying it from a deli or a take out place. Got a big 'thumbs up' for keeping with the simple theme.

I wish I'd thought of this years ago.

Lisa
 
holiday meal

Good for you for your thinking. Mom and I have put up a beautiful tree and the packages are all under the tree.

They are all empty! ! ! ! Neither one of us need anything, but she enjoys her tree so much we decided to just enjoy the season and avoid all the other shit.

Oh Yea, the meal. The best holiday meal we ever had that we "pick up" was from Boston Market. Good prices and fantastic side dishes and pies and cakes and baked chicken or turkey. Just thought I would share! Anyway, glad you are doing ok and handling this holiday pressure. Mom and I are enjoying our pretty tree, the holiday music and programs on TV and experiencing "O" stress. Of course our tree looks like Santa came for a family of 6 because of all the "presents" under the tree. LOL!

Anyway, have a happy holiday with your family and keep me posted on the baby when it comes.

Your buddy GRAMA HERC
 
I've been reading here and there that the holiday crap is starting up again for a lot of us. So I'm starting a vent thread for anyone who wants it.
Great idea, Marlene! Apparently, I had forgotten the ridiculous added stress that the holiday's can bring. For me, the worst of this stress results from things that occur or happen outside of my control.

Take this coming Christmas, for example:

Who would've thunk it, that in the last 20 min. not only did I trip and fall over a laundry basket in my basement and land sprawled out across the room, but moments later while carrying more 'x'mas stuff down to the basement, I nearly slipped, on my stockings, and could've easily have broken my back, given the type of fall I almost took. It was certainly a some real scare! It sucked! And, then I was so ticked off, for some absurd reasoning, I couldn't think straight enough to measure my distance between me and the walls and twice I banged into them. Now it would appear, I'm currently on overly prescribed medications or something; (which I haven't needed any medicine lately, or perhaps I've hit the bottle, (which couldn't be further from the truth.) The whole damn thing has me PO'd off.

What it is is frustration, lack of sufficient time and me feeling I must race around this house in order to accomplish what needs to get done before I leave to pick my children up in about 15 min.

Damn', it's too often a race against that clock. Especially, mornings and having to complete holiday forms and checks, gifts and such before we walk out into the land of ice, to head to school.

Marlene, I too need this vent thread!

I do not stop and stubbornly refuse to have a good day, months or longer, when there is chance of it, but I guess I forget how damn overwhelming holidays can, and often do become, and I get into the sorta' wishful thinking type bologne.

Oh' ya, great....Yippie, that's right, I also had to open my son's present in order to find the seriel # on it, in order to register it online, in order to fail to find the #, in order to call and wait several min. to speak to someone from the co. that I paid to protect it, in order to have them register me over the phone ...............and so I ended up registered twice, in the process discovered a cd' rom pckg.'d w/ product badly scratched if not cracked ....and then to be told, even if they don't have a single one on the shelf for an even exchange, don't call us, bc where you just bought it, they must be responsible. Never mind though that the protect. plan begins from purchase date.

I better get going. Glad this is a vent thread, bc that's exactly all I've just done - VENT. As I certainly didn't brush me teeth, or hair, or pretty up any to get ready to go out the door. (lol) As, you can see, I'm trying hard now to lighten up some and relax, after that pain in my arse' stress.

Stress..............grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
Must'ntt forget anyone!................grrrr
Must'nt wrap one present more for one child then the next. ...............grr
Must make sure presents are of nearly equal value. .....gr

I'm beginning to feel a bit better, now!
 
I have one to add Hope. Make sure you spend all of your money on presents so that your broke and in debt. This is enough stress to drive me over the edge since I'm not working and got denied disability last week. Then to receive presents from others that I don't need or want. Whoohoo I love the holidays.

I wish I could sleep through all of them, and wake me when they are over, or better yet, don't wake me at all. Oh crap I just got myself started into angry mode.
 
Well folks this "lovely" season of sharing and joy and all of the other irritating "happy" words we hear this time of year. As a group of people who can barely make it through the day WHY DON"T THE PEOPLE IN OUR LIFE UNDERSTAND WHAT HIS DOES TO US? ? ?

If I hear "Oh come on and go, it's only for a couple of hours and then you can leave" one more time I am gonna go postal on somebody.

There, I have vented and feel much better LOL I hope each and every one of you have a holiday that you truly enjoy and survive the ones you don't. Say a pray, take deep breathes and TAKE ANOTHER PILL (it seems to always help)

Bless you and your families during this holiday season. Fot those of you who are alone, remember that WE are here for you and are a kind of family! Hang in there and this will all be over very soon. Thinking of all of you and sending love.

A Very Proud New GRAMA-HERC
 
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