How do I not blame myself?

[VeryAngry]

I'm sorry. I cant stop writing. I forgot what I even wanted to say

 

[arfie]

self-blame does that to me, too. keep trying.
listening. . .

 

[Friday]

A realistic understanding of what is & is not my fault, as well as the nuanced & various shadings therein, and their appropriate weights.

For example? Is it a bank’s fault if they are robbed? What if they’re right by 3 freeway entrances, a port, airport, & train station? Worse? Only have 1 armed guard, or none, AND an antiquated security system. If they didn’t WANT to be robbed, they wouldn’t be in such a vulnerable location/condition. They’re just begging for it, right? So much so that no one who robbed them would actually be charged with a crime.

That’s not how fault works, is it?

No matter how plum the target, it’s the person who robs the bank who… robbed the bank.

Some things? Are legit my fault, and I am 100% to blame.
Some things? I am partly at fault, and share the blame.
Some things? Are not my fault, but are someone else’s.
Some things? Are no one’s fault.

 

[Austener]

I'm sorry. I cant stop writing. I forgot what I even wanted to say

I'm in a similar space right now. No matter how much I write, there's just MORE thoughts behind it. I just want quiet in my brain.

I've been meditating a lot to help quiet things down.