Relationship How To End Things With Him The Right Way

[Deleted member 27524]

@FridayJones I do expect him to drive up here to request to talk in person to smooth it over and try to talk things out. However he runs a successful business and he works another job as well plus he has a child. He wouldn't camp out up here for days. I can handle his PTSD if the distance wasn't an issue. He's worth all of that. I guess I feel like I can't see his face or his reactions being so far away as I could in person and it would be easier for me to cope with the lack of communication because I see it firsthand and not just sense it or guess that's what it is. If I go see him and I can tell his body language or his quietness then I know for sure and I think I could handle it way better but unfortunately I don't have that privilege. I believe with every fiber of my being he cares for me deeply and it's his busy season with his landscape business so it's added stress for him. If this distance was not an issue then NO I wouldn't say goodbye!

 

[catlover26]

I re read your original post and I see there were other issues with communication. Sorry for my mix up. Hope I didn't overstep myself.

 

[Sweetpea76]

Honesty is always the best policy.

Even as much as he doesn't want to hear it, and even as much as it may stress him, my vet would rather hear everything laid out on the table 100%. He would be way more upset in the long run if I didn't tell him point blank what I wanted or needed. If not, he would waste a lot of time trying to figure out "what I really meant."

If you need more communication in a relationship, and he can't give you that, no matter how much you love each other, then it isn't a good idea for you two to be in a relationship. Telling him that leaves no doubt as to how you feel.

 

[Lilmssunshine]

I don't think your quite ready. Me and the man I love didn't speak for six months because I thought I was ready to move on too. Come to find out we STILL are holding on. I ended up calling him and he told me he loves me. Although he's isolating again. Imagine that lol. When you love someone it doesn't just go away. There's no amount of wishing away something or avoiding it if it's real. Walk away when your ready. You will know when your ready. Take some time to take care of your own needs for a while.

 

[Deleted member 27524]

@smarrero I enjoyed our talk today and I do plan on talking to D in person before I make any decisions! He deserves that, I deserve that, and what we share certainly deserves that!

 

[Lilmssunshine]

I enjoyed our talk too! I'm here if you ever need to talk. Best of luck!