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[Mercy]

YUP, I've been there a few times. Once was at a friend's graduation. Where sitting in a stadium way high up, I yearned so many goals and choices that parts of me were quite adament about.

It is work to learn to communicate within one's self. Some people use a pad of lined paper and each piece of you can have a chance to say or draw whatever they want to express. Holding each one's contributions as valid for them, eventually we can learn to listen to the hopes and the pains of the group you are made up of. Some parts may be afraid that if they allow themselves to merge with another part, they will disappear. That has not been my experience. They get stronger and feel more supported.

It is entirely reasonable to have set up different part to do different jobs. My system is somewhat like that, different children parts who know the rules of the particular story so they could 'get it right'

 

[intothelight]

@quietpool Welcome to the forum. :)

This site is a great source for practical information and the support of people that really understand.

 

[quietpool]

@Mercy

I like the pad of paper idea! Recently I have been trying to map out what each piece is all about- it is a lot of work. The parts being afraid of disappearing makes a lot of sense, I am not sure I have had that experience either. Mine get out of sorts when another part they disagree with is dominating things. I have been reading the Goddess in every woman book which has helped me look at the parts as archetypes. The author uses the myth of which goddess gets the golden apple to discuss which archetypes we rely on and when. She talks about them as being a committee and how to get them to work together.

It's nice to hear that getting them to realign with each other is possible, I keep working on it in bits and pieces.

What I found interesting through the archetype perspective etc. is how many people have different aspects of self even without DID. We have our work self, our family self, and our social self etc.

Yes very reasonable and helpful to have the different parts with different tasks, it really helped me survive and even today none if it is bad I just have to get it all to work together.

 

[quietpool]

@intothelight

Thank you :)