I Am Not Zac Efron (Humor Only!)

[Grama-Herc]

anni,

The post I made within this thread was directed to no one person, not even you. It was directed to the actual post, the apparent quotes with response and the sexual direction it took. I felt it inappropriate in every way, even if it was in the chit chat section. When I logged on to it, well, I'll not go into how it made me feel. But it sure would look rather strange to find a thread like this one if you were a newbie with PTSD from sexual issues. What kind of impression would it send???

Yes, we need humor, but it needs to be appropriately labeled as such and, IMHO, should probably have it's own little corner of the forum so those of us with issues do not trip over something like this without being warned first.

I am glad to see it has been labeled humor only, but it is still distasteful to me. Maybe it should be labeled Sexual Humor Only!

JMHO

 

[onebravegirl]

In my Opinion, this thread was a thoughtless and disrespectful attempt at humour. No one got hurt huh? My name was used in this thread intimaitng that I would cheat on my husband and offered a fake phone number-supposedly mine. Explain how my husband or I would find that funny? It was insulting. For those of us who have suffered sexual trauma the last thing that we find as funny is someone taking (in my case) my name and using it for their own idea of what is funny.That whole "*****" part of the "joke" was horrible too. How many of us had some heavy sweety man on us whispering those kinda words into our ears as children? No guys. Not here. Please. Respect that so many of the people on here are at the thoughest parts of dealing with their tramas. You may not know what their Horrors were, but for goodness sake realize that this is not the pace to be saying "oh, come on and lighten up".

I do not think that this was intentionally meant to hurt anyone. But here is a place that should be respectful of others. Not just a place where you look out for your own intests. If you find a person here that you hit it off with and enjoys that type of humour, do as Grama Herc suggests and lable it as Sexual in Content.

Is this idea of funny worth hurting and possibly triggering someone here? There are lots of ways of sharing a laugh without implying things about other members. I hope you can see the validity of my point. This place is meant to be helpful not hurtful. Any thoughts Ghost?
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[Grama-Herc]

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You said it better than I ever could. I am glad to see that I am not the only person who was really upset with this thread. It helps to know when offended or insulted that you are not alone.

 

[Grainne]

Guys :(

I really don't want to engage in this conversation, but I've got to throw a word in for Ghost. I know some of you are very offended, but I'm quite sure that Ghost meant no harm. Words sometimes hurt people unintentionally...and then the arguments start.

Reading this 'disagreement' has triggered me far worse than the original post ever would have. Everyone here is different...let's try to remember that what might might upset one, does not necessarily upset all (and vice versa).

Grainne

 

[Deleted member 541]

I think that we have established that some people have been very offended by this post, and others have not. It's all a matter of taste, and outlook on certain things.....I think and hope that Ghost will think twice about posting something with this content, and using personal names in the future....

Humor is great and we all need it in our lives....A little common sense to approaching it would be more favorable, IMHO!!!!!

Lets not turn this into a witch hunt........IMO, it's over and done with, lets move on......

 

[bonnecanyon]

Whoa! Can we just step back a minute here and ask Ghost was his intention/motivation was? Was it humor (as stated in the title)? Or was it just to see what kind of response? Let's stop feeding into this energy and move on as She Cat recommends.

 

[Nicolette]

There are a lot of valid comments in this thread - from both sides which is obvious to all.

I personally think the issue has run it's course and nothing further is to be gained. It is respected that some members are offended & even if the intent was clarified with Ghost it would not change anything so I am closing this thread. Anthony may choose to re-open it but I feel my decision is appropriate at this time.


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[ghost]

More to life...

Hi Everyone

I have not actually been on here since the day I posted my 'Zac Efron' thread. So, having just absorbed the response I am still a little bit dazed.

Firstly, I would like to affirm that it was not my intention to offend anyone in posting this thread.

I am always conscious of the fact that many members of this forum have suffered sexual abuse. I am very much aware that there is nothing funny about sexual abuse. In fact, I am the first one to object to its emerging use as a subject of humour in many of the television programs that currently pass for entertainment.

When posting anything that has sexual overtones I am careful to avoid crossing the line between humour and being disrespectful of the abuse that people here have suffered. At the time of posting this thread I did not feel that it went beyond the boundaries set by other (humorous and general discussion) threads that have been posted here without backlash.

With that said, the last thing that I want to do is cause anyone here to feel uncomfortable or to feel that their suffering is being invalidated. So, I apologise if anyone was genuinely negatively impacted by reading my thread.

Most of the names referenced in my (pre-edited) thread were people here that I consider friends and those who I felt fairly confident would laugh rather than take offence.

Onebravegirl, I do not know you personally, so including you was a bit of a gamble… Needless to say it did not pay off. For the record, I am sure that no one here, including myself, considers you to be anything other than a devoted wife and mother.


All that aside, in the immortal words of Derek Zoolander, “I’m pretty sure there’s a lot more to life than being really, really, ridiculously good looking. And I plan on finding out what that is…”


Warm regards

ghost

 

[anthony]

I have decided to now leave this open after Ghosts response.

People need to really take into account that some people do not live on this forum, they do not frequent daily and so forth. Reading this thread reminds me how destructive some people can become when they put their piece, then continue to build momentum from others responses, yet the author or person has not yet responded to the original issue.

Please treat people how you want to be treated, which means even if something pisses you off, it doesn't mean you go on the attack, but instead carefully verbalise your thoughts knowing that this is text and does not come with emotion, facial expressions, tones and so forth.

 

[becvan]

Ghost, in my opinion, there was nothing wrong with what you posted, as is (I did not see it before today.) Jokes that have mild sexual innuendos are fine. It was not digusting or graphic, it did not imply that rape, assault or harassment are okay and those are what I would consider crossing the line. I'm a sexual abuse/assault survivor myself and didn't see much wrong with it. Remember that no matter what we do, we will trigger someone else on this forum. There just is no avoiding it and really the forum is designed to do just that. Getting triggered and learning how to deal with it is part of the healing process. Also everyone has there own sense of humor. I personally did not find it funny, but only because I have no idea who this Zac person is. Without that.. wasn't very humorous. But that is my own lack of funny bone or more like just my strange one. Your clarification post was very well written and respectful. :) Well done.

bec