munkinmama
Silver Member
I have had more experiences then I care to count with people who are suppose to be professionals acting unprofessional. I am tired of people treating me like I am a horrible monster when they find out I have PTSD,depression and anxiety. I am not going to recount them all but I will write about one experience.
About 5 years ago I was not in a good place. I was a single mom of 3 special needs boys. They were diagnosed with ADHD, Oppositional Deficiency Disorder (ODD), depression and anxiety. I had spent 4-5 years trying to get help for them and work. I was not caring for my needs and thus was not caring for them as I should. I finally got burned out and asked for help.
My youngest son's Dr at the time told me a " normal child needs 2 parent to care for them while a special needs child needs at least 3 and since I had 3 special needs kids I was doing the job of 9 people. I asked CPS for help as I had no family to help me . This choice was the worst mistake I made they took the kids into foster care and my hell began.
They would tell me I need to do what I needed to get better but really they has no intentions of ever giving me the kids back. My Dr I see for my eating disorder was pressured by them to see if she could admit me in hospital to " observe" me when all she wanted to do was an IQ test. I was put on a waiting list this took 8 months. During this time I am asking the worker what steps they wanted me to take so I could have my kids back the only reply I would get is we are waiting for the assessment. I was puzzled and lost.
Finally my Dr said enough was enough and booked me for an out patient test. I got a copy of the results 3 months later. I figured yes finally we can come up with a game plan boy was I wrong. Instead the worker and her supervisor sought out my abusive ex. When they got him involved after he had been absent for 5 years (which was a blessing) they refused to work with me. They did everything in their power to only work with him meanwhile giving me false hope for fear of upsetting me they later told me. They were pushing me to go see the house where he was still living telling me it was safe. I was not going back to the place that would be a trigger for me. I asked if a police officer could be there if I went and was told no and when I asked what if he tried something then the worker replied with "I will call the police".
The Supervisor and worker resorted to taking pictures of my ex's house to prove to me it was safe. When I finally got told he was getting the kids and they decided this 6 months pror to informing me. They told me I was lying about the abuse and because I had a great relationship with the foster parents of which they encouraged. They said I had tainted the foster parents against my ex. I was crushed and hysterically cried in the office the supervisor turned to my mom and said " Does she smoke because it calms them down and shuts them up faster" I was stunned. She advised me to get a lawyer. I tried getting answers and called both the worker and the supervisor and got no response.
Later the supervisor told me in our finally meeting when the file was being closed that when I had my IQ test she was waiting to see if there was something mentally wrong with me and my asking for answers made her feel threatened so she cut off communication for 4 months. I was like you are joking. Yes I have a mental health conditions but I was not born with it I have this because of trauma I went through.
This is just a brief description of what I went through it was 3 years of hell so I cut it short . Has anyone and I am sure there are many who have experienced those who do not know quite how to handle the fact you have PTSD
About 5 years ago I was not in a good place. I was a single mom of 3 special needs boys. They were diagnosed with ADHD, Oppositional Deficiency Disorder (ODD), depression and anxiety. I had spent 4-5 years trying to get help for them and work. I was not caring for my needs and thus was not caring for them as I should. I finally got burned out and asked for help.
My youngest son's Dr at the time told me a " normal child needs 2 parent to care for them while a special needs child needs at least 3 and since I had 3 special needs kids I was doing the job of 9 people. I asked CPS for help as I had no family to help me . This choice was the worst mistake I made they took the kids into foster care and my hell began.
They would tell me I need to do what I needed to get better but really they has no intentions of ever giving me the kids back. My Dr I see for my eating disorder was pressured by them to see if she could admit me in hospital to " observe" me when all she wanted to do was an IQ test. I was put on a waiting list this took 8 months. During this time I am asking the worker what steps they wanted me to take so I could have my kids back the only reply I would get is we are waiting for the assessment. I was puzzled and lost.
Finally my Dr said enough was enough and booked me for an out patient test. I got a copy of the results 3 months later. I figured yes finally we can come up with a game plan boy was I wrong. Instead the worker and her supervisor sought out my abusive ex. When they got him involved after he had been absent for 5 years (which was a blessing) they refused to work with me. They did everything in their power to only work with him meanwhile giving me false hope for fear of upsetting me they later told me. They were pushing me to go see the house where he was still living telling me it was safe. I was not going back to the place that would be a trigger for me. I asked if a police officer could be there if I went and was told no and when I asked what if he tried something then the worker replied with "I will call the police".
The Supervisor and worker resorted to taking pictures of my ex's house to prove to me it was safe. When I finally got told he was getting the kids and they decided this 6 months pror to informing me. They told me I was lying about the abuse and because I had a great relationship with the foster parents of which they encouraged. They said I had tainted the foster parents against my ex. I was crushed and hysterically cried in the office the supervisor turned to my mom and said " Does she smoke because it calms them down and shuts them up faster" I was stunned. She advised me to get a lawyer. I tried getting answers and called both the worker and the supervisor and got no response.
Later the supervisor told me in our finally meeting when the file was being closed that when I had my IQ test she was waiting to see if there was something mentally wrong with me and my asking for answers made her feel threatened so she cut off communication for 4 months. I was like you are joking. Yes I have a mental health conditions but I was not born with it I have this because of trauma I went through.
This is just a brief description of what I went through it was 3 years of hell so I cut it short . Has anyone and I am sure there are many who have experienced those who do not know quite how to handle the fact you have PTSD
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