I can't possibly stand up for myself - It wont end well.

[Ronin]

My issue is that I don't actually have enough of a connection to my body, thoughts and feelings

Do you need those, though?

I think deciding how you want to be treated, & insisting on it to the greatest measure you can do, does not depend on feelings, or how connected you are to yourself, or your thoughts. Just that you decided you want to be treated X way... & that is it. How you go about enforcing that decision is, surely, going to take bit of a practice, may be influenced by all of those factors, but is not dependent on them, either.

 

[Rani G2]

It's as though I'm fundamentally weak... it's just who I am, nothing I can do about it.

Runs in my Bloodstream (Yes I repeat myself)

Dominant (Can be an imprecise definition) Patient at work:

I tell her „that she reminds me of a strict teacher at work, and that actually creates a fast heartbeat in me“
Was not the truth, but an attempt to make the situation digestible to me.

It worked: She smiled, and said „Oh I am not like that at all“

 

[The Albatross]

Do you need those, though?

I think deciding how you want to be treated, & insisting on it to the greatest measure you can do, does not depend on feelings, or how connected you are to yourself, or your thoughts. Just that you decided you want to be treated X way... & that is it. .

Yeah you need those @Ronin - I may be misunderstanding you but it seems to me that you trend to choose cerebral-ness? Heart, gut, mind, body connections are important for people with derealization, depersonalization, dissociative tendencies. Deciding okay sure but then you add "insisting" how you want to be treated. That's a position I don't ever want to be in... why I chose autonomy and self efficacy.

 

[Ronin]

Yeah you need those @Ronin

Ahh I see where you be coming from :tup:
I meant more like, it sounds that Ms. Spock may yet need time to get where she wants with being grounded & connected to herself & life the way she would want, and does not have wait to be treated fairly and well till achieving that.

That she may not feel well with any of those areas... but being treated well by others, & those needs met, are not depending on how she feels, she can & should have niceness regardless.