I'm Going To Get In Trouble On This One :d

[Barconian]

Dear Boss! The one who owns this forum!!!

Please forgive me for talking to you on the open forum, as I have an IQ of about 78. I can only deal with prawns!!!

You don't seem to talk much, unless I haven't noticed?

I kind of like this forum of yours Mr I have forgotten... Sorry, my memory sux!!! You are asking for donations to help this forum along? Are you prepared to tell me your goals?

If you erase this thread, then I have an answer!

 

[Nicolette]

Dear Barconian

I actually own this forum so it's Mrs Boss to you and my husband Anthony runs the forum so he's your Mr Boss.

Rather than entertain your attention seeking thread, I suggest you actually read the Donate Page which answers your question.

 

[Barconian]

Dear Nicolette, How very nice to meet you! Thank you for responding. Now tell me me why I should donate to your forum! If I was intelligent enough, I would ask you stupid questions about what your intent is?

 

[Muzikluvr]

When a service is provided, one usually feels compelled to offer support to keep that service operational.

The explanation of where the money goes is easily found in the donation page that Nicolette cited for you. If you'll notice, the server costs are always covered by members who already feel appreciative for this resource. There is no pressure to donate. You may use the resource for free. I am glad to support it on your behalf, and on the behalf of anyone who comes here with the sincere desire to learn more about their own or their loved one's PTSD. Part of the reason that I donate is for the visitors who read the site and yet, for whatever reason, they are reticent to join and participate.

I notice that the forum is fully supported each month because I would increase my donation if it weren't. It makes me happy to see that other members like this resource enough to support it financially. I don't think I'm alone in that feeling. So, please, feel free to use this resource for as long as you need without donating. If you are changed by it, you may feel appreciative someday, and you may be able to express your appreciation in the form of a monetary donation without feeling suspicious about where it is going. Until then, and perhaps forever, consider this site open to you free of charge.

On the chance that you are a troll, our community is very protective of one another and we don't care what your challenges are when it comes to being abusive to others. Many times sufferers are abusive as their defenses have been built up and their paranoia creates the appearance that they need to lash out. This is no excuse. We, as a community, require that the members here behave with a social conscience. Most of us are victims of some pretty horrific abuses by authority figures and others, many of them had challenges of their own which led to them abusing us. So, having a troll in the community is unhealthy for us all, and we just don't tolerate it.

Take some time to look around the forum and get to know us. Decide for yourself if you want to participate in this community or if you'd rather pass. Share some of your story and offer some support to those of us with similar experiences. How we respond to you is dependent on how you treat us, even if we are a pretty understanding group of people. We won't be abused again, not even by one of our own.

 

[cherryblossom]

Now tell me me why I should donate to your forum!

No-one is saying you 'should donate', but the option's there if you want to. Your choice, no pressure.

 

[Deleted member 20280]

May one inerject on this thread. I for one appreciate all the therapeutic help and advise I have received from this forum. I am not in a secure financial enough position to donate. If I were I would gladly donate to further this site. Without this site I would not be as psycholically sound as I am now. Thankyou Nicolette and Anthony for all you have done for me the last 9 months. Without your help, guidance and the postings, advice from others (staff members and both other sufferers and supporters) I could and probably would not be where I am today. So from me thankyou.

Laurie

 

[Deleted member 1860]

@Muzikluvr,
I think it's a bit harsh to insinuate that Barconian may be a troll. Trolls don't usually join, make numerous helpful posts, and then start trolling 2 months later. Yes, Barconian has made a number of helpful replies and I know that I have personally liked quite a few of them. Please don't throw around the troll label when you haven't really been active on the forums much as of late.

 

[Hashi]

Barconian, are you unclear about the aims and objectives of the forum? If so, I'd suggest you post a respectful and straightforward question about that in the Help Forum. That's all that's needed.

 

[Abstract]

I think it might be useful to look at how you word things as it can make all the difference. I wondered if you realised that the way you posted these questions gives the appearance of you wanted to stir things up rather than genuinely just wanting the answers to the questions you asked. It almost implies an accusation rather than a question.

Were you aware of that intent when you posted? How are you with authority figures in general?

Personally, I think being able to ask for clarification is a healthy thing. Blind obedience got many of us into sticky situations. Questions done respectfully and appropriately that is.

 

[BloomInWinter]

@Barconian,

Your use of the bang symbol, "!", is considered to be yelling in internet-speak unless delivered attached to humor, not sarcasm.

It is considered a sign of trolling a site in a deliberately provocative manner. You'll notice that very few people use these when addressing others on here except to be supportive. The ones who do use them tend to repeatedly find themselves in arguments and spending time having to try asking amends.

As staff, we spend much time moderating across all parts of this forum, talking a lot behind the scenes, helping members with issues, etc. Just because you don't see it doesn't mean we're not doing it. It takes so much time and communication that we don't have the time to respond much to thread topics.

Asking for donations for websites is a common practice across the world. The documentation is there for anyone to view. Please read it and feel free to post any questions to the help desk where one of us will answer them.

 

[Lucycat]

Your use of the bang symbol, "!", is considered to be yelling in internet-speak unless delivered attached to humor, not sarcasm.

Ooops, I have learned something here. I never knew that, and I have been rather fond of the exclamation mark. I will pay more attention in future.

 

[Nicolette]

When I was at my worst... All I ever wanted was a gentle hand to guide me until I was on my feet! Support is being, a part of standing behind your friend and just be there for them (and not by controlling them, either).

Barconian you receive 'free' support here from those akin to your suffering and situation.

Quite simply donating aids to the server and running costs of this forum and keeps this resource here for you to access. We, like other staff, give our time freely to ensure the smooth running and safety of members. Anthony also spends hours upon hours with upgrades, improvements to keep this forum as user friendly as possible.

I have read some of your posts and you are quite intelligent so please desist from trying to play the 'I'm not bright card' when you are in-fact acting ignorant and are coming close to trolling behaviour. I'm not saying you are a troll however your behaviour and approach in this thread is troll-like.

From Wikipedia In Internet slang, a troll is a person who sows discord on the Internet by starting arguments or upsetting people, by posting inflammatory, extraneous, or off-topic messages in an online community or with the deliberate intent of provoking readers into an emotional response or of otherwise disrupting normal on-topic discussion.

Now tell me me why I should donate to your forum

There is no obligation to donate as @cherryblossom outlined. If you would like to give something back to the community which supports you and provides you with a platform to discuss PTSD and keep the resource running.... that is quite simply why you would donate. @Muzikluvr has already answered it in great detail.