I have been with my husband for 7 years, and we were very happy until the symptoms of PTSD started. He has it in a very bad form, because he was hiding the symptoms for a long time and did not get any help (he still does not get much). He started talking about living alone several months ago and told me abut his symptoms, but I guess I did not understand the severity, because he is not a great communicator. Unfortunately, we also had a very stressful time these past months, with me having a major surgery etc. So finally he has moved out with all his stuff, and he is telling me not to wait for him, because I don't deserve this, I should enjoy my life, find a healthy man, that he may never get back to normal, etc. Knowing my husband for many years, I can see that there nothing in his actions or words that a healthy him would have said or done, so I cannot believe that this is him speaking and not his condition, until I see him happily settled in a normal life with someone else. I plan to wait for him to get better (because right now he is in a condition where there is not really any way down, only a way up or out) and then see how he feels about the relationship. I would not give up on him unless I do see him being happy with someone else, then I would probably move on myself. I think it is important to look back and analyze what you know about the person and to ask yourself whether this is that person is talking to you now or this is someone possessed by the dark forces of the disorder. In my case, it is clear that it's not the person who I knew talking, and I do know that he is still somewhere there, so I decided to wait and see him coming out from this shell and then make my decisions about the future directions. As I said, if he is feeling great and still does not want to be in a relationship, then I will move on.
