General Intervention Is Coming.... Looking For Feedback.

[Amack]

Ugh... My gut feeling is that I don't want to be there. I know something has to be done and things h...

Wow, Livy's Mom I feel like your wrote my story except we have 4 kids and mine is a first responder. I know this is an old post but I came across it and was immediately in tune when I read your story.....At this exact moment his (SO UNHEALTHY, part of the PROBLEM) family are asking for an intervention because his drinking has finally spilt over (no pun intended) and caused them distress this holiday season. I have the exact same questions you did. Is this a good thing for person in full blown episodes of PTSD and drinking to deal with right now? He won't admit to having a drinking problem, and is getting help for PTSD but is delaying it all by the drinking and abuse of meds.....its a vicious cycle. I agree needs to be fixed but intervention by a bunch of people that are most of the cause/??/??........I would be interested to know if you had it? And how did it go?
Thanks for being open and vulnerable I know its NOT an easy place to be.......

 

[Livy's Mom]

Hello @Amack. The post is old but I'm still here! I'm sorry you have to relate to my story. It's a terrible place to be. With 4 kids no less. I can barely keep it straight with 1.

So, it did and didn't happen. We went as far as meeting with the interventionist where I did provide information about the problem but informed them I would NOT participate.

The plan was set and a small part of me had hope that maybe despite all of my gut feelings about it, it just might work. I mean if we have no hope what have we got right??

I let them do what they were going to do and stepped back. In the end of that big plan they did nothing more than alienate him further and make him more determined to say the only problem was the crazy people around him

They thought it a great idea to confront him aggressively, IN A BAR.. From what I understand he spent the entire time just blaming me and that was that.

He no longer has a relationship with his mother because of it and once the moment had come and gone nobody cared anymore. Except me of course.

It's back to, enabling and avoiding for the rest of his family and I've just been putting one foot in front of the other.

I don't know the exact details of your story so I don't dare give my opinions/advice but I'm open to hearing it, if you want to vent and share.

I pop in every few days to put myself in check and remind myself I'm not alone in this

 

[Amack]

I went solo for awhile thinking I could make it through the holiday again.......would love to know how it all turned out!!! Obviously, community rocks a whole lot more than solitude.....:rolleyes:.........Mine learnt nothing and holiday went as usual and we are at usual bad place....