Is closure all that important?

[EveHarrington]

I have that book. I should read it. Thank you for your words. I put an email out to a therapis...

No, they aren't all wounded healers, at least not in the way you are thinking (I believe).

MANY get into the world of psychology in order to figure themselves out. Unfortunately there are a great many who don't actually fix themselves before attempting to fix others. I have a feeling she's someone who could use DBT herself, but isn't putting the skills to work! She fails on skill #1......the wise mind concept. If she can't even stay in wise mind during a session and gets butt-hurt, it's time for her to pack up her bags and call it a career. You're a failure if you can't even master basic skill #1 of the treatment you purport to provide!

 

[UnicornSightings]

Oh shiesh. That is a pretty crap way to handle email and termination... probably tied with whatever...

She doesn't have a phone lol. I can email for scheduling things but I can't email about feelings. So I can say "I won't be able to make it in on Tuesday" but I can't say "because I feel you won't hear me when I speak or care"

 

[Justmehere]

What?! She doesn't have a phone?! That's sketch....

 

[EveHarrington]

She doesn't have a phone lol. I can email for scheduling things but I can't email about feelin...

Who says you can't? She's not the boss of you, lol. If you're emailing to end things, just say whatever you want.

 

[deeplyloved]

The more you describe her, the more controlling and untherapuetic your therapist sounds... Thankfully, she is becoming your ex-therapist. I would consider making some notes to yourself about these things. You might want to start out your consultations with new therapists discussing how they handle boundaries and conflicts.

 

[Sideways]

She's not the boss of you, lol

This is one of her boundaries. It's come up before in a different thread.

@UnicornSightings - am I right thinking there's a reason she's asked you to limit email contact to just scheduling issues?