Is it normal to have reaction?

[Bloomy]

I work in kids scholl. Kids can get pretty rough towards eachother when they play.
We try to talk with them about it - schools have some programs to teach them social - be - nice to eachother skills, but still...

Today it went all wrong as the kids where out to play. A kid strangled another and the strangeld one seemingly fainted.

Kiddo came to me and said what happend and as the situation looked like I choose to react by lifting up the fainted kid to bring him indoors and call medical for safety. And parents of course later on etc.

Got help from some one I worked with eventually.

Became a big scenario when emergency team came and cops and parents and all.

The fainted kiddo was back to his good old self nearly at this point.

Principal and leaders and so on was there. No one talked with me about it really. They talked with medical, parents and cops. Nearest leader said I could take 5 min of do.

Some one told me later that he might should have been debriefing about this accident.
Maybe they should also have asked me how I where? Or say anything at all? Of course the kids are also important - the most important, but I was also there and it kinda freaked me out in many ways. Like did I overact and the kids where just playing brutal game for fun? Did I make a unnecesary big scenario? Choosig to act the wrong way as employee? Acted any kid of way in many ways?

In all Im asking if Im normal to have reactions to such incident cause that my employers didnt say anything to me about it barely looked at me it feels like I should let something I see as pretty serious not to be so?

 

[NoWhereKnowWhere]

I'm not sure what exactly your asking. Is it about calling the emergency services? I absolutely believe that's the right thing to do. When it comes to a child's safety its always best to be safe. And I think maybe some good will come out if it. Yes children can get a bit rough With each other sometimes but this seems like it could have been more serious. Maybe now the parents will have more conversations and perhaps the kids might've gotten a scare and will think twice next time.

If what you're asking is if your emotional response was "normal" then yes I believe so too. When something like this happens and especially when it's a kid it's bloody terrifying. It seems like you kept your cool and got the child some help. Well that's a massive achievement bit everyone would have had your quick thinking.

Yes I think you absolutely should have been debriefed. Like I said these things provoke a very strong anxiety response. For me it seems to be after the fact I tend to do well in the crisis and crumble after words. Someone should have talked with you after this.

 

[gealach]

From a medical viewpoint... loss of consciousness for any reason is an emergency, especially when a child is involved. As for choking, young people think it's a game (it's actually called ''the choking game'' here), but there have been injuries and fatalities associated with this game. You were absolutely correct to get professionals involved, and I don't think you over-reacted.

Any event that causes, or has the potential to cause, harm to a child and happens on school property, should automatically have a debriefing afterward. Especially when professionals have had to respond to the school. The fact that the child is ok, doesn't mean that this isn't a traumatic experience for anyone who witnessed or responded to the incident.

You should be proud of yourself for responding so quickly to help the child.

 

[Bloomy]

Think I was very tired yesterday when I wrote the post and couldnt write proper nor clear.
@NoWhereKnowWhere you answered what I was wondering about. Yes I was wondering if it was right to call emergency. And yes I also wonder if my reaction to it was normal. Or emotional response. Felt like I where supposed to be cool about this. But indeed I was terrified. For the sake of the strangler and the strangled. As @brokenEMT says I thought I might have over reacted to the incident. Also cause of the response of one of the collegues as she said when I told her I needed to take care of this that we where not enough staff on work for me to follow this up and that she could not be alone with all the other kids Further I also wonder since the kid where ok that it shouldnt feel like a traumatic stress to me.

I think I get these feelings also since I didnt get any feedback from my employers.

 

[Bloomy]

Boss called in to meeting about this today. She dont seem very interested in how I am other then the polite message this morning to ask if Im ok, but guess thats normal.

 

[Bloomy]

Meeting ended with a small sidekick to Bloomy from boss ie negative criticsm. But Bloomy is working on ignoring general bullshit from others even if titel is boss.
Life goes on.

 

[Deleted member 541]

@Bloomy You did the right thing. Don't question that.....

 

[Friday]

Yes. It's completely normal to have a reaction to a child who could have died under your care. Unconscious kids are scary. Regardless of the cause. Add in that another child caused it? And not knowing how to treat it? Yep yep. It's a great big huge stressor for most people.

 

[Bloomy]

After processing a bit I get why this get to me. Boss said in debriefing in plenum that we did a good job at this incident in school. Well of the 5 people attending we were only two people that took care of the situation and especially it was me. I would have appreciated the boss look me straight in the face and say "well done". She didnt. So it goes back to Bloomys old wounds of feeling not seen and not appreciated. In addition to that they treat this like something just to get over and get on. That triggers Bloomys feelings of having to ignore a stressing situation and also dire one. Put on survival face and survival mood and keep troddin like aint no busniess at all and like noting ever happend.