General Its Official...how To Be A Safe Outlet?

[SimplyComplex]

So my husband was told his PTSD diagnosis from his therapist yesterday. We saw it coming a mile away...he even admitted it (in a joking way) after I was diagnosed a few months ago. But it is not a surprise, especially since I have been reading a book on PTSD and see the different faces of the disorder. So I am a supporter and a survivor...and so is he. It's funny how we managed to find each other, huh? Anyone else out there?

But he numbs his emotions in a big way. Stuffs and numbs and shoves it into a ball of toxins in his gut. Instead of acting out, he just isn't present at all. But his t has been working on him letting things out and last night, he did. I can save the details, but there has been a good bit of him letting anger out. Scares the heck outta me! And I still tend to tell him to stop, once I busted out laughing. I obviously have my own issues...t will help me too I am sure. But how do you learn to be a supporter? Are there books that address how to help the best?

The real upside is my husband is going to try to get better, I believe. I don't think he has much choice though, it has reached critical mass inside him.

 

[Tinyflame]

Oh SimplyComplex, you already understand much by being in similar shoes.

You can ask him what he needs, and also know how you would feel (when it's 'you',- what do you prefer?)

I can relate to him, a lot. Not so much the anger (but sometimes), and otherwise.

Take care of each other.

(((((Hugs)))), if that's ok.

 

[IvyMillie]

It's good that he is willing to try and work on himself. That also, opens up the communication alot. I'm glad it's hard for people to admit they have a problem. It will probably take some time to figure it all out together. I think your help would be to be a good listener as you are doing already. You may have to ask him what would help--everyone is so different. This is new for the both of you. Sorry I can't help much.