Relationship Just Now Accepting He Has Ptsd

[Febbsmum]

This is my first post and my first Time talking about my husbands PTSD.

About two years ago he was diagnosed with PTSD. We were both surprised because he wasn't in the military he didn't witness or go through any horrible crime he was fired from his job for being "intimidating " . Unfortunately we were in the process of buying a condo at the time so the deal fell through .

He has always suffered from depression some times worse than others but he was on meds at the time and seeing a therapist so when things went downhill fast I was surprised to hear about PTSD I figured it was just his depression .

So he got a little better I got pregnant he got way better we moved to a new place he was like his old self again and then we had the baby he was still ok then the baby got really sick and she got better but he didn't. Our daughter is almost a year old and now we live with his parents because I couldn't afford to support us where we were living and things are terrible.

I didnt believe he had PTSD I don't know if I was being optimistic or uninformed or in denial but after reading a little on here I realize the doctor was right he does have it. I knew how to deal with the depression I have had 10 years to figure it out but I feel like Im lost here. I don't know what to do.

I'm sad, bitter, angry, lonely, discouraged. I'm an optimistic person and I feel like for the first time I'm afraid of the future.

 

[Noa]

It sounds like he has difficulty dealing with very stressful situations. I think he needs to work it out with a therapist and the exact label is not that important. Maybe he just has high anxiety. Living with his parents doesn't sound too healthy.

 

[BloomInWinter]

((((Febsmum))))

You have every right to feel all that you feel.

As a sufferer, I hope I've made it clear to my family that I want them to enjoy their lives and not let my challenges be their problem.

My wish for my hubby and kids is that they find healthy, supportive people, hobbies, and experiences to fulfill the spaces in their lives that I cannot. While I love them and am grateful for their help, any of themselves they give away to me which comes at their expense only deepens my sense of shame and guilt.

Do whatever it takes to enjoy your life and your precious time on this earth. Then, you'll be in a much better place to help others if and when they are healthy enough to ask.

You are a wonderful person. Your efforts are greatly appreciated even when not acknowledged.