Last night was awful

[GwenDR]

I feel sick. Last night spouse woke me in the middle of the night, and had me examine her genitalia because we was worried about an uncomfortable inflammation or something. I was barely aware of this, and had been anxious about something else when I went to bed, and she got angry with me when she felt I only gave it a cursory examination and went back to sleep. She woke me up again to scold me for it or something. I was really scared. I wound up hitting myself with a pillow, hit her in the process. That's about all I remember of it, that and just feeling absolutely terrified the entire time. I talked to her about it today and she said she asked and got permission from me. I believe her but I don't remember, and didn't really know what was going on. I've felt anxious thinking about it all day, and feel sick.

 

[The Albatross]

Rumination or over thinking won't help Gwen... turn it around and table it til you can have another discussion.

 

[Deleted member 42783]

How are you doing today Gwen?

 

[Fadeaway]

You were woken from sleep, it is normal to feel disorientated when you wake up to someone asking you to do something. I think some self compassion in in order here.

 

[EveHarrington]

Don't take on her BS!

It's pretty unreasonable to wake someone in the middle of the night and make them do a thorough examination of your genitalia IMHO.

She shouldn't have treated you that way.

 

[GwenDR]

Thanks for all the replies. I'm doing okay, mostly. At least as far as this goes. Still kinda upsetting, but I'm not necessarily dwelling on it, or thinking about it most of the time, so that's good. Just wish she hadn't tried to justify it.