Looking For Information On Dbt...

[MEME]

My T. has suggested that I join his DBT group to learn the skills i am lacking.

He gave me a quick overview and asked me to consider it.

I am really not sure about it .

Firstly I am not at all SUI. and i dont do SH.
I am 99.9% sure i will NOT be using phone coaching.
I have read about homework given and sharing the skills used in previous week with the group.
What if i didnt need to use any skills during the week? what if i have had a great week?
can i skip the individual session then, since there is nothing process for the week?

so i am not sure if i am in such crisis where i need to do the formal DBT program.

Another thing that worries me is...the group.
I have never been in one.
I dont like seeing my T's other patients in the waiting room. I start comparing myself to them.
I am not sure if i would enjoy being in company of 9 other patients that my T. sees.
I may regress...feel inferior...and hate myself more if i dont fit in. I may feel out of place. i may feel jealous . i may have a lot of negative feelings seeing my T's other patients.
My T runs the group and also does individual sessions with each member of the group.
I am not sure if i want to step into something that may backfire...and make me feel worse about myself.

and the cost...
if you dont mind sharing...did you go with the insurance or without. i dont have BPD diagnosis...so my insurance may not even cover it.

I want to try it just for curiosity and also i can see my T twice a week then.
I am willing to try new skills so they can help me in future.
group...is terrifying at the moment...only cause i may feel very negatively seeing how my T and his patients engage with one and another. if they are more talkative, more humorous and fun to be around with..i will feel pathetic.
and some people wrote that they played games in beginning of group session.
I dont like games...and i am really hoping that is not the case.

Also, so far everything that i have read is..about the Skills and 4 modules i.e. stage 1.
what about stage 2? has anyone done it?

and lastly...how did you get started? did you do an assessment first?

i know my questions are all over the place...feel free to answer as you wish...thank you.

 

[joeylittle]

My T. has suggested that I join his DBT group to learn the skills i am lacking.

Can you be more specific about what skills your T would like you to gain?

I dont like seeing my T's other patients in the waiting room. I start comparing myself to them.
I am not sure if i would enjoy being in company of 9 other patients that my T. sees.
I may regress...feel inferior...and hate myself more if i dont fit in. I may feel out of place. i may feel jealous . i may have a lot of negative feelings seeing my T's other patients.

These are all things (for example) that you can use DBT skills to address and eventually conquer.

Even an incredibly mentally healthy person would likely have at least one reason a day to apply a DBT principle - simply from experiencing the daily unexpected stressors of life. So, I don't think you need to worry that you'd go a week without needing to use them.