Made t run late...now feel guilty

[Mach123]

Being on time is crucial in particular with the relationship you try to build in therapy. But, things happen. I know my therapist is trying as hard as I am to get to our appointments. As far as feeling bad I know what that feels like but give your therapist credit she did what she thought was best for her and you and kept you there. Trust her that she knew that was the right thing. : )

 

[Butterflies2023]

I understand the need to send the email. I am happy your T's responded and notice it was very short & sweet.

Ts should not have to respond to emails. It was difficult for me at first to understand that therapists have a life outside of the office. They really do! Why couldn't I understand that (LOL)...

If you send future emails...that same anxiety you experienced may drive you nuts if your T does not respond.
It's only after going through this myself - I learned it would have been better for me not to have started that practice in the first place.

You can address these things at your next visit. Like at the start of your next visit say - "I realized I kept you over last week - thank you!"

In the meantime - BREATHE YOGA EXERCISE HIKE MOVIES GREAT WAYS TO RID YOURSELF OF GUILTY FEELINGS

 

[PDH]

I understand the need to send the email. I am happy your T's responded and notice it was very...

I didn't actually have any anxiety regarding getting a response to the email - and I didn't post here what her response was - just that it was a lovely response.

I agree, T's shouldn't HAVE to respond to emails. They are human, and have lives outside the therapy room just like everyone else. I know all emails get read eventually - and for me, just knowing it is heard and received is enough. The only time I ever expect a reply is if its regarding scheduling or something like that.

I guess the main reason I sent the email instead of waiting till the next session to address it was because due to her schedule at the moment, we're unable to lock in regular appointment times so its a bit up in the air as to when the next session will be. I think on reflection I was concerned that the feelings I was having would manifest further and set me back. A quick email was able to defuse the situation a bit.

 

[Butterflies2023]

You know after reading this I really responded in a way I experienced this similar situation. Sorry. I forget what Therapists call this - there is a name for it. LOL

I do apologize... Thank you

 

[PDH]

You know after reading this I really responded in a way I experienced this similar situation....

All good!
I do the same thing sometimes!

 

[LosingHope]

There are lots of trauma survivors who feel responsible for everyone else's feelings. I think it is important to remember that other people don't necessarily require us to take care of their feelings for them because they can do this for themselves! In this case, the therapist has a responsibility to keep to her time and schedule and if this means going over 15min in order to keep you safe, then she has made this call. Please leave that responsibility with her though also make sure you talk to her about it in session within the context of feeling guilty and responsible and maybe where else in your life you have also done the same?
Hope that helps a bit!