General Managing The Household..

[Inthistogether]

Thank you! Yes, I do have help from J and the kids. The kids are 2 and 5, so what they can do is somewhat limited. They are of course able to pick up toys and clothes, throw things away, eat neatly etc.

J helps too, sometimes without being asked. He is generally good natured about it if I ask him to do a specific task. He just doesn't usually take initiative to clean unless I ask or it reaches a critical disaster point.

 

[Taven Carlsen]

I've been on the opposite side of this problem and, ugh, I'm hard to deal with. I know I am. Look things just "don't work" with me. My head won't stay together. I'm not sure where I am a lot of the time. Etc. The only answer I've ever had is to disappear which obviously women have not liked so much either. But things just don't work with me.

If you want to keep a guy with PTSD around you have to know there will be some babysitting. Unfortunate but there we are.

 

[Toria]

I know the time has come to hoover when the dog hair rolls across the kitchen floor like the proverbial ball of tumbleweed in the movies... :roflmao:

I did once buy a book called House Detox though - it was in a cheap shop and I thought it sounded like a good idea. It was quite inspirational and I've just read it again - now I just have to find the time to put it in to practice :whistling:

 

[amethist]

Once I blitz a room, I open the windows, spray it with home made sage spray to freshen and clear the air, then enjoy a job well done. :tup:

 

[Eleanor]

I got a real kick in the pants the other day when my sister and her husband wanted to stop by, and I was too embarrassed by my completely trashed house to have them here.

This is half the reason we ever (as we rarely do) invite people over! It *forces* us to get cleaned up:)

 

[Sunshine71]

I too find Spring cleaning and cleaning theraputic and you feel better for detoxing your house too.

Hubby seems to like this too and have something to focus on.

Maybe when he tries and it (hopefully) it helps you both feel good he will be inspired to do more cleaning??

Sunshine :O)

 

[Bilby]

Since I feel there are so many things within my life that I can't control, I find that doing housework is somehow therapeutic for me - I can control it. I'm in control of how neat and tidy the house is. I had to establish a routine though as I got a bit obsessive about it. I now limit myself to doing one 'big' job per day (excluding dishwasher packing/unpacking or washing up, clothes washing, cleaning the kitchen!) and this keeps me (relatively) sane.

I do get my cranky pants on at my husband as he leaves things everywhere - part of this is just being a bloke I suppose, but part of it is the fact that he doesn't hold the cleanliness of the house at the same level of importance as I do :) I dislike things lying around or mess in general - wrappers, clothes, empty soft drink cans, teaspoons, the coffee/tea 'ring' on the kitchen bench!

I do wish my husband had some basic respect for what is important to me though - i.e. not leaving lolly wrappers or empty cans lying around. And, that mug that you left sitting on top of the kitchen bench my dear husband? It goes in the dishwasher, right beneath the bench where you left the mug..... I don't mind doing the housework - as I said, it's a thing that I can control and that I take pride in, but I do get cranky if very small things that could help, like putting your own rubbish in the bin, isn't done :)

 

[blackemerald1]

I am a total disaster with house-work. I think when I was born a mistake was made and I was swapped and got a poor family instead of the rich family.....who would have had maids etc., I usually let things get to crisis point and my son bless him argues with me about the validity of doing dishes at all. He suggests when you cook something else in a pan or whatever that the heat will kill the germs from last time it was cooked in. lol Now because I do all the dishes and clean the kitchen, so we don't get poisoned and get salmonella, well I did it for about a week and then blew up and had an argument with him. Now he does HIS dishes but leaves mine. Grrrr. As for washing and other things I do them but only because we get checked every 3 months by the landlord. I hate house work with a vengeance.