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Please cite where in which wave of feminism it says that men cannot be misandrists. I mean, women are often misogynists, and that's well-accepted in the discussion of feminism. Where does it say they can't also be misandrists?
@somerandomguy, the interactions with women you are describing is not gender equality and therefore not related to feminism (the belief that we should strive for gender equality).
This is a great example of something that is a feminist issue as well as a great example of you being victimized by cultural norms that emerged from patriarchal values--namely, hegemonic masculinity.
If I mug you on the street in front of a police officer, and the officer laughs it off because I am a small young woman, that is gender inequality. That is patriarchal norms saying that I can't possibly pose a real threat, because I am a small young woman. It's like the cops that used to roll up on my partner when he and his friends were hanging out in the "black ghetto:" the officers would tell my partner and his friends to get out of that neighborhood, when they were carrying and doing as many drugs as the next person in that neighborhood. That is racism, because the officer is assuming these young white boys don't pose the same threat as the young black boys around them.
I think you are seeing the patriarchal issues feminists rail against as a female problem, which is and has long been a major issue for feminists. A society built from patriarchal values is everyone's problem, and you are a fine example of how "the patriarchy" harms men as well as women. Unfit mothers winning custody of their kids over a loving father figure is a product of patriarchal norms that enforce hegemonic masculinity. That is, hegemonic masculinity states a man is not capable of providing the same care as a woman, because women are supposed to be caregivers.
A real feminist, IMO, would reject this thinking, because it is a direct product of gender inequality in our culture. A real feminist does not want more rights than men, they want equal rights for men and women, which includes us all being judged directly by the content of our character, not the contents of our pants.
I'm sorry that you see the patriarchy as a female issue when you are so clearly suffering because of this system. I know you didn't build this system as a man. None of the men I've met, including ones who were predators, built this system. None of the women I've met, including the ones who enjoy patriarchal gender norms, created this system. We are participants in this system, and most of us don't even realize how we participate.
@somerandomguy, the interactions with women you are describing is not gender equality and therefore not related to feminism (the belief that we should strive for gender equality).
This is a great example of something that is a feminist issue as well as a great example of you being victimized by cultural norms that emerged from patriarchal values--namely, hegemonic masculinity.
If I mug you on the street in front of a police officer, and the officer laughs it off because I am a small young woman, that is gender inequality. That is patriarchal norms saying that I can't possibly pose a real threat, because I am a small young woman. It's like the cops that used to roll up on my partner when he and his friends were hanging out in the "black ghetto:" the officers would tell my partner and his friends to get out of that neighborhood, when they were carrying and doing as many drugs as the next person in that neighborhood. That is racism, because the officer is assuming these young white boys don't pose the same threat as the young black boys around them.
I think you are seeing the patriarchal issues feminists rail against as a female problem, which is and has long been a major issue for feminists. A society built from patriarchal values is everyone's problem, and you are a fine example of how "the patriarchy" harms men as well as women. Unfit mothers winning custody of their kids over a loving father figure is a product of patriarchal norms that enforce hegemonic masculinity. That is, hegemonic masculinity states a man is not capable of providing the same care as a woman, because women are supposed to be caregivers.
A real feminist, IMO, would reject this thinking, because it is a direct product of gender inequality in our culture. A real feminist does not want more rights than men, they want equal rights for men and women, which includes us all being judged directly by the content of our character, not the contents of our pants.
I'm sorry that you see the patriarchy as a female issue when you are so clearly suffering because of this system. I know you didn't build this system as a man. None of the men I've met, including ones who were predators, built this system. None of the women I've met, including the ones who enjoy patriarchal gender norms, created this system. We are participants in this system, and most of us don't even realize how we participate.
