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Sufferer mental health and motherhood

I'm not sure where to start. It's really hard to be a mom let alone a mom with mental health issues. I want to be there for her and be happy and I feel so guilty I'm not happy all the time with her. I try so hard and I have really good moments and even really good days but at the end of the night it just all comes crashing down. I feel like I'm drowning while keeping her afloat, and I shouldn't blame her and I don't I just am scared I'll never be what she needs or deserves.
 
I'm not sure where to start. It's really hard to be a mom let alone a mom with mental health issues. I want to be there for her and be happy and I feel so guilty I'm not happy all the time with her. I try so hard and I have really good moments and even really good days but at the end of the night it just all comes crashing down. I feel like I'm drowning while keeping her afloat, and I shouldn't blame her and I don't I just am scared I'll never be what she needs or deserves.
I understand how challenging it can be to navigate motherhood while dealing with mental health issues. You are not alone in feeling guilty or overwhelmed; many parents with PTSD or CPTSD have experienced similar emotions. It's important to remember that while it's natural to want to be happy all the time for your child, it is also normal to have ups and downs.

It sounds like you're doing your best to be there for your child, and that is commendable. Taking care of your mental health is crucial for both you and your child's well-being. It could be beneficial for you to seek support from professionals who specialize in trauma if you haven't already. They can provide guidance and help you develop coping strategies.

In addition to professional help, connecting with others who have similar experiences can be very valuable. Myptsd.com is a peer-to-peer community where individuals suffering from or supporting those with PTSD and CPTSD can connect and share their experiences. This community understands what you're going through and can offer support. You'll find specific forums dedicated to various aspects of PTSD and CPTSD, allowing you to explore topics that resonate with you.

Remember, you are not alone, and reaching out for help is a sign of strength. Take it one day at a time, and together we can work towards finding ways to manage and heal.
 
I'm not sure where to start. It's really hard to be a mom let alone a mom with mental health issues. I want to be there for her and be happy and I feel so guilty I'm not happy all the time with her. I try so hard and I have really good moments and even really good days but at the end of the night it just all comes crashing down. I feel like I'm drowning while keeping her afloat, and I shouldn't blame her and I don't I just am scared I'll never be what she needs or deserves.
Navigating motherhood in the best of circumstances is difficult. With PTSD some days feel downright impossible. I had a therapist once tell me that no matter how great of a Mom I am I will screw my kids up in one way or another. This took a lot of pressure off and allowed me to concentrate on the really important gifts that I could give them. This includes a mother who is safe during hard conversations, protection from people that I knew would do them harm emotionally, and a sense of "home." These basic things made my children's lives better, even when I couldn't drag myself out of dissociation long enough to play with them at the park every time.

You really brought back some memories with, "...but at the end of the night it just all comes crashing down." That is a feeling I will never forget. Crying and crying while they were too young to understand and thanking God that they were. I wish I could hold your hand in these times. I hope you have someone who can do that for you. I did not. Please do ask for what you need from whoever you have that feels "safe" in your world. I know that asking for things feels wrong to some of us, but we have to overcome that when we are drowning, especially when we have children who depend on us. Let your daughter be your fire, determination, and reason for asking. Always know that you are enough. You are all that matters to that little girl because your love is paramount.
 
hello skywalker. welcome to the forum. sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here.

gentle empathy on the difficulty of parenting children while under the influence of mental illness. i often envy the siblings who can blame self-medications, such as drugs, religion, alcohol, etc., but i manage to create my FUBARs while i'm stone cold sober. in 2019, i was forced into a second parenting career by the traffic deaths of my son and his wife and? ? ? the challenge doesn't seem to have simplified much for adding geriatric complaints to the challenge list.

the good news is that i've gotten much quicker about creating and leaning on a support network. i get by with a little help from my friends and it really does help to feel less alone with these monumental challenges. this very forum is one of the nodes on my support network. i hope it serves you as well as it has served me.

welcome aboard. i hope you find stabilizing companionship here.
 
@princessskywalker Welcome to the forum! I raised four children with PTSD and they are all fine adults with children of their own now. Their struggles were associated with my Ex as he was also a contributor to my PTSD. All you can do is your best and no parent is perfect so as long as your daughter is healthy and happy you are doing a good job.
 
@princessskywalker Welcome to the forum! I raised four children with PTSD and they are all fine adults with children of their own now. Their struggles were associated with my Ex as he was also a contributor to my PTSD. All you can do is your best and no parent is perfect so as long as your daughter is healthy and happy you are doing a good job.

My ex has rewritten my whole life story - even my childhood. I was diagnosed with PTSD and he chose to manipulate me.

I teach my child what I know about the world. But I have been silenced teaching my child the things that matter the most.

Health and happiness mean nothing. My ex and his family decide who people are, and you cannot veer from what he decides.
 
Princess. Sorry.

You are doing better than you think. And, if my message says anything at all, it’s that you have it more together than me!
 
I'm not sure where to start. It's really hard to be a mom let alone a mom with mental health issues. I want to be there for her and be happy and I feel so guilty I'm not happy all the time with her. I try so hard and I have really good moments and even really good days but at the end of the night it just all comes crashing down. I feel like I'm drowning while keeping her afloat, and I shouldn't blame her and I don't I just am scared I'll never be what she needs or deserves.
I can relate. I have been a single parent for 28 years with severe mental health issues. You just do the best you can. Some times are worse than others. Try taking mini breaks during the day or taking more time for yourself to relax. This will help some. In the end she will remember the good times and time you spent with her not the bad times.
 
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