Million Dollar Headache With Landlord

[Deleted member 541]

@ladee I feel bad bitching about my situation when I read that you have no stove, fridge or water How in the f*ck do you live without that???? Seriously???? I can't imagine having to exist like that, because to me, that isn't living, it's merely exsisting. How long before housing would be available for you? I think you mentioned that you had put your name in for elder housing???.

 

[ladee]

Over two years ago... but it's not just existing...you would be amazed at what you can learn to live without after a Hurricane turns your world upside down.... I do have a microwave and have water stored in reusable plastic jugs.. don't feel bad for me She Cat... my life is simple and comfortable... I don't have to worry about the stove and fridge breaking !!! LOL.... seriously.... my life is very good.. guess what I was trying to say was, you can live and have a good life regardless of the circumstances...
You are scared... I understand that... but so was I when I first got relocated with nothing but the clothes on my back... but good things happen... depends on how you define good....

The things around me do not make or break my life... I am doing much more than 'existing'... I have a solid roof over my head.. a place to lay my aching body.... I have friends, I have this place, I have Faith... my life is simple.... and it does make a difference in how overwhelmed I get.... the more you have, the more you have to take care of... so, please don't feel sorry for me... I have a very good life.... and it is not defined by where I live....

Hope you get a break soon... and feel more settled.... I am settled.... and that makes my life easier.... I am saying, there is always a solution... may not be what you had in mind... but there are a lot worse things than my little house, that is mine, that I call home.
Gentle hugs.

 

[Deleted member 541]

@ladee If there is ever a time that you do need help don't hesitate to ask, I would help you in a flash. That you can depend on.... And don't give me that shit about not being able to ask for help.......

Well, was trying to empty out my car today, the landlord drove in and stopped at my car and said, "Wendy, I have some bad news for you". I looked at him and replied, " I don't want to hear one more f*ckING ounce of bad news from you and I don't give a shit what it is." Apparently the guy that was going to buy the house.... Backed out of the deal. So, he has to put the house on the market.

We shall see how this goes. But, after hearing what @ladee has to say about life and living... I'm going to try and put my anxiety on a shelf and just go with the flow. I may slip up at times, but I am going to try!!!!

@ladee thanks for setting me straight!!!!!! :hug:

 

[ladee]

I'm happy to hear the anxiety will have a place on the shelf, just knew it wasn't helping you to stay upset. Wasn't changing anything.

It's funny how we perceive things and what our mind will do with it... not funny 'ha ha', but ironic.... I certainly am not just 'existing'. I am happy most of the time... know what to do about if I'm not....I can stay in the problem or find a solution.... doesn't mean I don't feel anxious or down or any other human feeling.... It is too hard on my body to stay upset.... and it hurts bad enough as it is...

So, hang tight, something is going to work out.... I didn't want a Hurricane to disrupt my life and have to spend time with the family from hell, but I love the little town I live in... I needed the change and didn't know how bad....

 

[Deleted member 541]

Landlord has turned into Dr jeckel Mr Hyde. Last week when I was going out to me car, he was sitting on the step and I asked if he was tired. That started a shitstorm of verbiage that went from bad to worse.

Apparently he has another buyer for the house and he told me this guy is going to turn the place into high end apartments. I don't know who the potential buyer is, but the last thing landlord told me was the closing is on the first if they can pull it off.

The guy that lives upstairs is their nephew. He woke me up 4 times this weekend between sat@4 am and su @4 am. The 4th time, I completely lost it and stood in my living room screaming at the ceiling what an insensitive f*cking asshole he is.

Still seeing the physiotherapist for my back, as that is still bothering me, and today I had an emergency appointment with eye Dr. I now have a growth on my right eyeball that is very painful. Eye drops for two weeks and see how it is then.

I feel like I can't catch a break. It's been 5 months of one f*cking thing after another.

I'm ready to say f*ck it and just chew on a few cherry pits.

 

[ladee]

Save those cherry pits until you know for sure.... 'if they can pull it off' sounds shady.... what was that supposed to mean... ??

And what did you mean by saying that about the landlord... is he regretting putting the appts up for sale?

sorry you are being snowballed.... there are not words of comfort except you will get thru this , but you already know this..

 

[Deleted member 541]

@ladee Honestly, I'm not sure I will get through this if I'm faced with getting a notice to vacate. There are no places around here that are within my price range, and in neighborhoods that are safe. I live alone and I'm not willing to put myself in a place that I'm afraid to leave for fear of someone breaking in, and afraid to stay for the very same reason. This is a tough town/city to live in with lots of drug crimes and gun violence.

I've never been in this type of situation before either. I've always been independent and always taken care of myself. This for some reason seems very bleak, with no way out. I feel trapped, with no place to go. No solution. I've moved many many times before with absolutely no issues, no problems no fear about my future. Lately, I feel like there is no future with no where to go.....

So these are my fears. They may not seem real to anyone else, but they are mine....

 

[ladee]

They are really very true fears She Cat... very real... it would be my fears also..... are there small towns nearby that you could check out.... If you clean houses, could you relocate with references or go to work for a service until you got a name for yourself... ??? If there are no places in your town, maybe there is in the outer edges or a smaller town....
I do understand , when I was relocated after Hurricane Rita, I had no idea what I was going to do... had nothing but the clothes on my back.... strange town.... but it all worked out somehow.... just saying don't give up on yourself.... I had no choices either really... and yet, tho I had to move three hours away from my home and friends.... it has worked out...... Not always the best of circumstances or lived the pretties of places... but where I am I am safe... and that is important... so I do understand what your fears are..... have some faith in yourself....you didn't get this far in your independent life to be left on the curb..... I have faith in you... you may have to think waaaay out of the box.... but you are not going to be homeless.... you are too stubborn for that, and that is said with RESPECT !!!!! sending hugs that don't help you at all, except for you to know I do understand.

 

[Deleted member 541]

@ladee The problem with living in a smaller town, is this. I live in Berkshire County in Ma. Google it. It's the entire western portion of the state. I'm smack dab in the middle of it. Ok, but, Berkshire county is the home of some of the rich and famous. From the past to the present Norman Rockwell, Herman Melville, James Taylor, and countless famous musicians, TV personalities, and artist. In every town there is an attraction. From Williamstown to Great Barrington. We have Tanglewood, Mass Moca, Williams College(where I was gang raped) Jacobs Pillow, The Red Lion Inn, The Sterling and Clark Museum, and dozens and dozens of other places in between.

It's turning into a tourist trap, with lots and lots of money. There is no industry, and there are few jobs outside of waiting tables, fast food chains, tattoo parlors and pizza joints. The rents are skyrocketing, and in the summer months places go for as little as $3000.00 a month, to over $8000.00 a month. More and more home owners are catering to the wealthy that come between May and Oct. where they can rake in big bucks on rental properties and not have to care about renting from Nov-April.

So, if I move to say one of the hill towns, the travel time to work would kill me as I work in the central part of the county. Plus getting to the hill towns.... is actually going up mountains. That's why they are called hill towns. It's bad enough that I have 2 customers that live in the hill towns, and it takes me 1/2 hour to get there and 1/2 back. Pain in the ass.

Much to think about, and not too many options.... safety and $$ are my top priorities first and foremost....

 

[ladee]

I'm sorry She Cat... very limited options.... well, really, no options.... Hope the landlord is happy with his greedy ass !!!

 

[lostforgottensoul]

I'm sorry @She Cat that I have missed all the craziness and shit that you're in and I'm sorry! :hug:s

If it makes you feel any better, I have been watching videos on how to survive living in a car. My luck it would be a broken car! I feel ya! Moving is gonna be a bitch and SUPER expensive! I have started all over with all new stuff 4 times and I really don't want to but moving all of this? Alone? Expensive!

More :hug:s just cause!

 

[Deleted member 541]

@lostforgottensoul Yeah, and I'm just plain tired too. The asshole that lives upstairs.... He's the nephew of my still current landlord. He woke me up 4 times last weekend in 24 hours, between Sat @3:45am and Sun@4:00am. Well, again today @3:30 am. f*cking asshole!!!!! I can't even find an apartment within my price range, and things are looking bleak. I hear you about living in a car, but I'd rather chew cherry pits!!!!!