Relationship More To My Mixed Up Toxic Love Story

[nursenurse]

It doesn't matter now what he does, how young she is, nothing! Of course you are hurt, but you will rise above it. Grieve the loss, but do not become mired. Learn from it. And carry on.

 

[Becksknox]

Thank you guys. I can't even figure out why I care. I tried to make a list of reasons I love him and seriously there were none.

 

[nursenurse]

That is what has been revealed. But you fell in love with whatever drew you to him in the first place, and then we feel taken and duped, even stupid when the truth comes out. But we are all human. If we were not we would be able to turn off the feelings with a flip of a switch. Go easy on yourself. He is a twerp and a few other unprintable things. But you loved him before all that came out. There had to be some good somewhere, but not enough to sustain a healthy, equitable relationship.

 

[Truthful_Whispers]

@Milo's papa I just found out he is now marrying this person he's been with for may...

Five weeks? Stooooopid move. Man, is he setting himself up for a diaster..

 

[nursenurse]

Talk is cheap, though. Believe it when you see it. And if he does, it will be over in s flash.

 

[Becksknox]

I can only hope. It just hurts with the good times we had and being engaged that he could just marry someone that fast that he doesn't even know and act like I mean nothing.

 

[Truthful_Whispers]

I can only hope. It just hurts with the good times we had and being engaged that he could just marry s...

It's his loss, not yours. He's so stupid, it takes him an hour to cook minute rice..

 

[Sweetpea76]

That little 20 year old just did you the biggest favor in your life... seriously. You just dodged a huge bullet. if I were you, I'd almost be tempted to go out and celebrate my independence!! You are a beautiful and vibrant woman... and there are plenty of good, decent men out there who are wonderfully loyal and would be happy to treat you well.

He is an asshole. Period.

 

[nursenurse]

They deserve each other. Who is feeding you this information anyway? I would be tempted to disassociate from them too.

 

[addmm]

I'm a supported of a military sufferer so I understand a small portion of what you are going through. I agree with other comments you need to cut all ties. You will eat yourself alive with envy wondering what these girls have that you didn't!! And let me remind you the answer is nothing. You are 42 and I'd guess you've done as much as you could. 42 is young and you've got to remember and the end of the tunnel there is light.. But you won't come to the end of that tunnel if you keep stopping to look back!!
You need to first of all begin to rebuild you, afterall your the most important person in this situation!!
Once you have found you again perhaps you will find the happy ever after that you deserve.. But until then, do everything in your power to avoid him.
He is poisonous and you deserve better!!!!

Keep your head held high. You done your best!!

 

[Deleted member 17302]

So last time I posted it was about my guy cheating with 2 people while lying to me.
I don't want him...

I've had similar situations with my relationship and what I've noticed is that the people she bails to "be with" are people she knows will listen to her every word and not question her actions or wants. Just throwaway enablers.

 

[hangingon]

You can can love and care for someone with all your heart. But that does absolutely nothing if they don't love & care for theirself. If he has lost respect for himself and no longer puts forth effort to go in the right direction, he will only bring you down. And everything I'm saying about him applies to you as well- you cannot go in the right direction if you aren't showing yourself respect or don't love & care about yourself. You have focused on him & why he may not want you. His opinion is not what matters. Once you delve into what makes you a good person and show respect for yourself, you will be on the path to healing. What are some things you used to do or have wanted to do that you didn't because you were focused on him? Do those things. Have friends invited you to do things that you turned down because you dont feel up to it? Start saying yes. Is there a book you've been wanting to read but havent, read it. Get your hair done, get good sleep, get out of the house in healthy ways, invest in you.